The great seductresses of history and legend – Cleopatra, Eve, the Sirens – were able to tempt men to abandon honor, virtue, wife and even life itself to satisfy their desire. Although a seductress's great beauty was certainly a factor in winning men over to her charms, more often it was her cunning knowledge of human psychology.
Seduction is a specialized form of persuasion that uses a man's weaknesses (such as his pride, sexual desire, or susceptibility to flattery) to convince him to do something which he would otherwise not do. A woman in love with a married man needs all the arts of seduction to convince him to break his marriage vows. A woman who wants to steal a man away from his current partner needs great skill in these arts as well.
If you wish to seduce a man, you will be faced with the challenge of convincing him to do something that may be against his principles. At the same time, you will be aided by the simplicity of your request. You are not asking that he fall in love with you or even marry you. The definition of seduction is "to persuade to have sexual intercourse."
Be wary: the skills of seduction are distinct to those required to make a man fall in love with you. When you seduce a man, you will make him crazy for you with lust. He will be intoxicated and infatuated with you. However, infatuation is different from the genuine love that bonds committed couples. Seduction casts a spell that soon wears off.
If you wish to seduce a man, you must first discover his weak points. Is he proud? Does he like being seen with beautiful women? Does he say that his partner is always nagging him? Does he wish, more than anything, to simply be with someone who asks nothing of him? Knowing these “buttons” will help you in creating your seduction plan.
Many men live stressful lives with pressure to perform coming at them at all sides. One successful seduction technique is to position yourself as the woman who is there to listen to him, to nod understandingly, and to comfort him when he feels misunderstood by the world. Never presume to give him advice or criticize his behavior; instead, allow him to talk without interruption. Comfort him by putting a sympathetic hand on his arm or giving him a small backrub. Reassure him that he is, indeed, a competent, strong, capable man. Tease him gently to bring him out of his dark thoughts and into a lighthearted place. He will appreciate you for being the only one who understands him, the one who can make him laugh when he's feeling down.
Your seduction success will depend on how well you can distinguish yourself from the other women in his life. You listen to him. You never nag. You fill needs that his wife never would. You are always happy to see him. You make him laugh. You take him out of his daily life and bring him into a magical place where he is a king who can do nothing wrong.
But always remember: you can make a man become infatuated with you, but you cannot make him love with you. Genuine love comes from a very different place, one of honest disclosure, openness, and trust. It's your choice.
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