How to Satisfy Your Husband after Having a Baby

By: Arlene Pellicane

It’s a familiar scene for families with young children. 

  • You have been awake since 5 am. Feedings, diapers, laundry, meals, emails, feedings and more feedings. You plop into bed exhausted at 11 pm, praying your baby will sleep for five hours in a row. You glance over at your husband who has that little gleam in his eye.
    You reply 'No way dear! Roll over and go to sleep'
  • But you know a physical relationship with your husband is part of a healthy marriage. You feel badly, but you are just too tired to do anything about it.

So how can you rekindle your desire for intimacy, even with a new baby?
It's all about making adjustments in your marriage. Below are tips on how to satisfy your husband and yourself after having a baby.

How to satisfy your husband after having a baby

1. Put it on the backburner, but don’t forget about it
Having a baby does take a great amount of time, work and energy. Intimacy may have to go on the backburner when your baby has a need. But just like you wouldn’t leave food sitting on the backburner for weeks, don’t forget about sleeping or making out completely with your husband.

When the time isn’t right for you, tell your spouse that you really like to make love another time, how about on the weekend? Set a real time and keep your commitment. Food left on the backburner will eventually go bad and the same is true about closeness in marriage if you neglect it for too long.

2. Put your mind to it
Your brain weighs just over three pounds, but it has 12 billion cells with thousands of thoughts blazing through it each day. These thoughts determine what you think of yourself and what your actions will be.

  • Dont keep saying you are too tired
    If you keep telling yourself, 'I’m too tired to make love' or 'I don’t want my husband to see me naked,' guess what? You’ll act on these thoughts and avoid making love indefinitely.

  • Think of yourself as a lover
    Re-train your mind and paint a different picture of yourself as the woman your husband is dreaming about. Make a point of thinking each day, 'I am a sexy woman, desired by my husband. I am looking forward to being intimate with my spouse.'

3. Put it on the calendar
When your baby has an appointment at the doctor’s office, do you go? Of course you do. Events written in the calendar with a specific time and place get done. The same applies to lovemaking. Start with putting one special time for romance with your husband in your schedule. Anticipate a great time together. You’ll be so energized and feel so close to your husband that you’ll be scheduling your next love appointment right away.

As you make time for intimacy, you’ll see your husband become more responsive to your needs.
He’ll be doing more diapers and helping out with baby so you can get ready for your date nights at home. Now that’s something to get you in the mood!

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