Most adults face the question from inquisitive relatives or friends regarding when, if ever, they intend to have children. Society expects that healthy adults propagate the species. It is Darwinism at its finest but some adults are faced with a conundrum when it comes to biologically reproducing a child from their own loins.
For some it is a matter of whether or not they are able to have a kid. Some may not wish to be in a relationship just for the sole opportunity of being a parent. Some are in a same-sex relationship and do not wish to give birth. Others may feel that there are far too many unloved children in the world and that they would be adding to this problem by ignoring the children already in the world in favor of giving birth to a child.
Child adoption is a solution many adults are turning to when it comes time to have children. Recent tabloids have shown famous celebrities adopting children instead of procreating. Adoption is not an easy choice, nor is it an easy road to take but it is worth the journey. This is especially true if it saves a child's life. In this article we will address some of the more common questions that arise concerning adoption.
What is child adoption?
Child adoption begins when a kid is given up by its biological parents, or orphaned, and placed in the care of the legal system. The system looks to outside adults to adopt the kid as his or her own and care for them in a loving home environment.
It is a legal means of taking an unwanted child and making them your own. There are many ways to adopt or procure a kid of different age groups. Some parents want to adopt newborn babies while others may not have a preference in age.
Should I be a foster parent before adopting?
If you are looking to adopt a child from a foreign country you will not have this option of fostering the kid before deciding to adopt. In the United States there is a great shortage of foster parents and an overabundance of children in the foster system.
Being a foster parent takes a special person because there will be special needs children placed in the home at times. Is it a good idea to try parenting out before adopting? Yes and no. Most first time parents do not have a "trial" run before having children so you do not need to test-run the parenting process before signing up to be a parent.
Children in the foster system often come from broken homes where abuse may have run rampant. These circumstances can often cause psychological and physical damage to the kid. The foster parent must be trained to deal with these issues.
Must both biological parents sign away their rights in order for me to adopt the child?
Legally both biological parents must sign away their rights or have the state terminate their rights as parents. In the case where the mother does not know who the birth father is, it can be a legally frustrating time in which the adoptive parents must wait for a determined amount of time for the birth father to claim his parental rights.
Many adoption laws now contain contingencies that limit the amount of time the birth parents have before reclaiming their kid. Some adoptions now include the rights of the birth parents to visit the child on a pre-determined basis much like custody agreements.
What are the laws for same sex couples who wish to adopt?
Same sex couples face many difficulties when choosing to adopt. They face not only the fact that many states do not recognize same sex unions but also have adoption laws barring same sex couples from adopting. The same laws often apply to same sex couples looking to adopt children from a foreign country.
Many same sex couples elect to adopt a kid by having one parent adopt and then later the second partner adopting that same child. It can seem confusing but is essentially the same as one partner giving birth and the other partner then adopting the kid. States such as Utah and Florida have the toughest adoption laws for single and same sex couples.
Are there financial guidelines that must be met in order to adopt?
There is not any clear cut income that must be met in order to adopt. Adoption is a very expensive procedure in itself so most agencies feel that if the couple or person is able to afford the adoption process, they will be able to provide for the kid. If a person is on government assistance, in this case, they will most likely be turned down for the reason that they are unable to provide for themselves, let alone the added expense of a child.