An Indian daughter?
Dalip Singh Wasan, Advocate

As far as people of India are concerned, they know that they shall have to send their daughter to the house of another and then she shall have to spend the remaining part of her life in that house. That house shall not be the house of her own parents. The father present there shall be her father in law, the mother present there shall be her mother in law, the sisters and brothers in law. Only law provides that they shall be her relations, but actually they are different people and they shall be treating her differently and very few of them would be taking her as their own daughter or sister. Therefore, in most of the cases she shall have to live in strangers and therefore, she shall be having more and more challenges in that house. She shall have to adjust herself and shall have to learn love, affection, respect and regard and she would not be getting all these things in charity. Therefore, parents in India must devote more and more time for preparation of their daughter so that she could be in a position to meet all these challenges of life and must not bring complaints to her own parents. Her parents want that she should be adjusted well in that house and must not bring complaints. They want good news from her side. So the daughter too has got many responsibilities and she must try to prepare herself and that preparation work must be done while at the house of her own parents.

Most of the daughters are getting proper education, proper training and some of the parents desire that their daughter must be adjusted in profession, trade, calling of employment so that she may not be dependent upon her in laws. But in all the cases it is not possible. The daughter must be told that it is not necessary that she could be treated as a lord in that house. There are responsibilities that the people in the house of her in laws shall be treating her as their domestic servants and every one in that house shall be demanding service from her. There are possibilities that even her own husband may be functioning in connivance with other members in the family and may be treating her like a servant. She shall have to bear all this and she shall have to upgrade her position through love, affection, regard, respect and service. She must know because fighting would not solve any of her problem. Actually they people have brought her and therefore, she must understand that they want to keep her in that family. They have different background. They have different behaviour and dealing. They have got different kitchen. They have got a different way of living. They have got different likings and dislikings and therefore, it is most necessary that the bribe must be ready to fact all this and must try to adjust in this changed atmosphere. She may be liking to change them. But they are like running horse and therefore, all of sudden the would not stop. She shall have to run with them for some time and only they she can convert them to her own way of living. In most of the cases, she would not be in position to change them and shall have to mix with them and become like them. Slowly and steadily wins the race, must be her motive and she must remain with them and without their notice, she must change them.
She must know that her parents would not like to listen complaints and therefore, she must not come to the house of her parents with complaints. She must bear al these complaints and should not share with her parents because they shall turn sad and frustrated because they are not in a position to solve the problems arising in the house of the in laws of her daughter. Therefore, the bribe must try to solve the problems herself and for that purpose, she must win favours from her own husband. He is the first person who should be tamed. She must start from her husband and once he is with her, she would be in a position to mix with this new family. And it is very easy to win over her husband. She must turn the most beautiful and most modern girl of the time and she must give a good atmosphere to the husband in the night. A good night spent shall give her a good day and this process must continue. The husband must understand that you have come here and are always at the command of her husband and at his service. She must start winning others members only after she has won her husband. She must prepare him to go out and she must wait for him and receive him warmly and must try to bring him at east so that he could forget all the tireness of the day. Only a wife could give him warm welcome and once the husband knows that his wife is waiting for him, he would be punctual in coming back because warm welcome is always waited and is liked by the men on this earth. She must keep her clothes, beds and other usables neat and clean and giving out good attractive outlook. She must prepare his bed like the first night of marriage. She must try to relax him when he is tense mood and she must share his sorrows and pleasures. She must not have doubt on him and must take him as her true life partner. She must be with him and should not think differently. She must agree with huer husband and must obey his commands. She can agitate rarely, because the man on this earth would not like criticism on him. She must avoid criticism. She must try to establish that she has got the wisest man on this earth and she is lucky enough that she could get such a husband. She must take him one of the great people on this earth. She must establish that she is lucky.

Love begets love should be her target and she must try to love her husband and also love for other members in the family. With love and affection she would be able to win over this family and once this family is won over. She would live in Heaven. And therefore, is parents of the daughter must understand all these situations, and they must give the best training available to their daughter. They must not teach her and guide her to teach a lesson to the people in the house of her in laws. They must teach and guide her to adjust herself in that house and bring a good news for them. Fighting and winning is not the right way out. The parents must be having all these things in mind and must prepare their daughter accordingly. Every member in the house must devote time for the preparation of the daughter for the house of others. This is the way of life in Indian and it is necessary evil.