Even though the advice you get for having a healthy marriage will often times seem obvious, you might find it's the obvious advice that is needed. Often times when you are in a long term relationship it becomes hard to actually step back and see what is in front of your face and it only takes a bit of simple advice for you to really see where the problems lay.



These five tips will help you when you are trying to figure out how to "save my marriage".

1. Being truthful.

Not only being honest with your significant other but being honest with yourself. Part of being honest is actually looking at what is working well and what is not working in the slightest. If you are unable to be truthful to yourself and are fooling yourself into thinking everything is fine, then things will stay as they are instead of improving. In truth, you are more then likely going to find that things are getting worse instead of improving in your relationship.

The quicker you realize and admit to the problems facing your relationship, the faster you can resolve the problems. You are half of the way there when you finally admit that there is a problem.

2. Communicating effectively.

Communicating properly is a very important part of having a happy relationship. If you are on you way to a divorce it can be a very effective way to save your marriage. It is so easy to fall into the routine of constantly arguing and fighting as the only type of communication. Can you honestly see your relationship lasting if that is how you interact with each other?

If you have something to discuss, then sit down and actually discuss it, without raising your voice. When you are actually talking about things it is very rare that the situation will become worse, unlike when you are hurling accusations at each other across the table.

3. Understand that your significant other is only half of the problem.

Solely focusing on trying to get your significant other to change will not solve all of the problems in your relationship. A marriage involves two people to make it work so to demand that one of them do all of the changing is not only unhealthy but it simply won't work.If you try to do this it will not lead to a healthy strong marriage.

It is much better to discuss the problems and figure out what you can both do to make things better for each other. It is much easier for you both to make small changes to make your significant other happy in the marriage.

4. Understand the falling in love and being in love are 2 different things.

When you fall in love with someone they can do no wrong in your eyes and you allow them do things that you may not necessarily agree with normally. That is why it requires work to stay in love - the love is still there, but it doesn't work to act however you please and have the love still be there.

5. Marriage Karma.

Understanding how karma works in marriages. What you give is what you receive. If you go the extra mile for your significant other and show that you are a kind, considerate, and caring person, then you stand a great chance that you will be treated back with kindness, consideration and care.

These 5 things can go a long way towards saving your marriage. Keep in mind, while it is very good to receive marriage advice, not all of it applies to your specific situation. Saving your relationship will take a bit of trial and error as you are finding what works for you as a couple and what does not work for you as a couple.