The message needs to be clearly identified as relevant and timely. Typically many of us have a real and important need to become better focused about things we would like. This applies to everything without exception, from what is useful to dealing with painful feelings. The problem is to reach that clarity and then to find the solutions to problems. The 7 Words System offers a straightforward instinctive system that permits us to get hold of a greatly improved feeling of what it is that we are looking for. This begins with the word No. To begin with, we will need mark out precisely what we don't want, what is not useful, before we can know what we do want.



Poetry at father's funeral: HELLO is about openness and attention.

Its importance lies in bringing attention to aspects of death and dying that can perhaps otherwise not be recognized. The second step links with the word Hello. We will certainly need to make ourselves open to new ways to see everything if we want to increase our array of solutions to problems. You agree? To get something different we will need to extend our prospect of vision and look where we have not previously looked earlier. New ideas, new people, new situations and new things are all aspects of giving deliberation to something we have not previously experienced. This necessitates that we exchange old for new, that we have something to offer in reasonable return for what we want to acquire.

Poetry at father's funeral: THANK YOU is about giving from the heart.

The poignancy of the reading will depend upon striking a balance between too little and too much sentiment. Among all available choices, some are more desirable than others and of course we want them to have a higher merit, because we appreciate them more. This is explained by the primary word Thanks. Frequently, we overlook the significance of what we have, fall into ungratefulness and are likely to take things for granted. It's more than simply good manners to reveal our appreciation for things we regard as valuable; it has a significant part to play in helping us to succeed in attaining our goals. Psychologically we are magnetized to what we express gratefulness for, and yet it's equally correct to say that we will be able to magnetize them to us too. We acquire charisma when we say Thanks and therefore, if we do so, we effortlessly bring things to us.

Poetry at father's funeral: GOODBYE is about completion and moving on.

The finality of death has to be dealt with; there is comfort to be offered in Truth. Goodbye is one of the seven primary words and concerns a procedure having four stages. They are: realization, decision, completion and moving on. Goodbye is being said to a possible stage of change, so can be understood simply as total refutation of a workable path of action that we had been going towards and in future will not follow. It is a crossroad point in our range of possible futures. Goodbye is different from No in that it is clear that we have had some level of connection already, which now needs to end contrasted with No's rejection in the first place. Firm decisions cut the past away unreservedly and that incisiveness establishes an open door that otherwise does not arise.

Poetry at father's funeral: PLEASE is about vision and prayer.

Many people have little or no experience of prayerfulness hence the special value of poetry to create sacredness through beauty. The future opens out according to the customs of what has gone before unless we take control of it and bend it to our desire. This compels us to have a vision of how we want it to be; this vision has to be very clear, precise and positive transformed into intention. They differ don't they - vision and intention? The first is rather illusory and the second is much more directed and conscious. For a vision to become real there must be help. Nothing can be achieved without attaining the support of others - this takes competence, most likely persuasion, even motivation. It is not always compulsory to proffer something such as money or money's worth

Poetry at father's funeral: SORRY is essentially about release.

Remorse, guilt and blame are issues that poems can address elegantly. Sorry, the sixth word, is best seen as repairing harm done because we've been inattentive or heedless to the needs or wants of someone else. The best strategy is to make sure we avoid the need to say it by being understanding earlier. Why on earth should we? Well it's because anyone we upset may well act against our better purposes and lessen our probability of success, so it is simply more shrewd to think of others as well as ourselves. It is all about being responsible, having some feelings towards someone whom we've upset and making recompense when we've made a mistake. Only then is it feasible to forestall or heal resentment and leave go of the permanent unpleasantness that otherwise would increase and become further aggravated.

Poetry at father's funeral: YES is about accepting and surrender.

Perhaps the deepest compassion is expressed when leading the bereaved to accept what is inevitable. The final phase of our 7 Words approach relates with acceptance; there are circumstances when we simply have to tolerate what we cannot change. The word is Yes. It would be fine wouldn't it if we were able to make the world exactly the way we envision it - but in reality we can't. We always need to withstand what comes, and to take what is not exactly what we asked for. The paramount technique is to have an expectation that everything in due course turns around to our advantage, that the modifications to our plans are all improvements when considered in the perspective of the longer term. For sure it's not easy to see it when we are still close and attached to our desires of course not! Nevertheless hold your fire and you'll see that the unanticipated incidents, the surprises and disappointments are actually the best bits masked as misfortune.