A funny joke and a cocky smile might get a girl's attention but if you don't know how to continue the conversation there's not much point in starting it. Even the wittiest of one liners followed by an awkward silence is unlikely to lead to a good time.
It you don't know how to talk to chicks, you're never going to score. Luckily for you, the art of conversation can be learned - and I'm here to teach you.
The most important thing to remember is not to let her know you're nervous. This might sound easier said than done, but by simply standing up straight, relaxing your shoulders and giving her a smile you will instantly appear more relaxed.
When talking to a girl, always maintain eye contact. Being caught watching the big screen sports behind her or ogling another beauty will do you no favors. Meeting her gaze, on the other hand, shows that you're interested in her without you appearing intimidated.
Asking what brought her to this venue is an ideal conversation starter. If she's there for a special occasion, get her to tell you all about it. If it's a regular night out, ask about the other ways she fills her free time. Open ended questions demonstrate your genuine interest in her and by encouraging her to enthuse about things she enjoys you will help to put her at ease.
Pay her compliments, but choose them wisely. Admiring her choice of jewelry or telling her you noticed her foxy dancing will sound more sincere and less sleazy than simply saying she's sexy.
Keep the conversation positive and upbeat. Don't discuss anything which is bringing you down, be it work, sore knees or your neighbor's barking dog. Never, ever criticize the chick that you're hitting on and resist making snide remarks about any of the people around you - not only would it make you appear like a negative person, but you can almost guarantee they would turn out to be her best friend.
When she asks you about yourself give honest, confident answers. Tell her what you enjoy and what you're good at, but never brag or imply that you're better than everyone else, and resist any urge to be self-critical.
If you're stuck for topics, pop culture gossip is great to fall back on. Ask her whose song is playing or tell her which gig or movie you last went to. Girls love to discuss the bizarre habits of the stars, so by simply mentioning a celebrity you can give your conversation a whole new lease of life.
Remember that she's nervous, too. Chicks are just as keen to meet you as you are to meet them, so you won't be the only one worrying about unplanned pauses. However, if things really do seem to be drying up, tell her that there's somewhere you have to be or somebody you have to speak to and ask if you can have her number before you leave.
When it comes to talking to girls, many men put themselves under undue pressure. The fact is, most girls love to talk, so by simply learning which questions are likely to get them started you can all but guarantee a conversation. Deliver your lines honestly, positively and without breaking a sweat and you'll soon discover that she really is pleased to meet you.
But there is an easy way you can create a dynamic conversation which will engage a woman and quickly build rapport. Here are six easy ways you can do this:
1- Have genuine curiosity about her
Every woman is different. Use your conversation to open her up and find out what makes her unique.
By taking a genuine interest in a woman and her life, you'll discover there is a lot to talk about.
2- Have fun with her and the conversation
When you're talking to a woman, make sure you're in a fun and flirtatious mood. By honestly enjoying yourself, it'll be a lot easier to get her to open up and find you more interesting.
3- Master the art of listening
One common complaint from women is how guys never listen to them. You can easily put the reputation to rest if you listen to everything she tells you.
In addition, by paying attention to what she talks about, it'll become easy to pick up on conversation threads and lead them towards *interesting* topics.
4- Bring sexuality and flirting into the conversation
Don't make the mistake of not discussing sex or flirting with a woman when you first start talking to her. This is a bad move, because avoiding the topic will make it harder to build *chemistry* with her.
Use this opportunity to talk about sex in a funny manner and flirt with her shamelessly.
5- Bring up off the wall questions and silly topics
Having a sense of humor when you're talking to a woman is a great way to build rapport. Don't afraid to bring up funny stories or ask her slightly off-beat questions.
6- Ask her opinion on different topics
When you ask a woman's opinion, you're practically giving her license to do most of the talking. You can really get the ball rolling if you ask her opinions on certain things like current events, work, hobbies, sex, family and relationships.
One bit of caution!
Stay away from hot points like religion, politics, abortion, etc. The last thing you want to do is get into a heated debate.
Any conversation with a woman should be done in a fun and flirtatious manner. In other words, it shouldn't be like a job interview.
If you learn to relax and implement the six tips I provided in this article, you'll have no problem building rapport and attraction with any woman.