The problem for me is that I readily seem to find the negative in any situation. I have spent a lot of time trying to figure out how to stop dwelling on the negative. But then I realized that something that comes so naturally to me could actually be a benefit.
Negative emotions have well understood evolutionary beneits. Negative emotions like fear, loss, and aggression signal the activation of our flight or fight response. When we experience negative emotions, we have a feeling of aversion, which sets us on course to identify what is wrong and eliminate it. Negative emotions and thoughts are associated with a survival alert that activates a reaction to fight, flight or conserve - each reaction with obvious evolutionary value. That is all well and good. But it still seems kind of negative. In contemplating this, I linked up with a principle from the teachings of Abraham and The Law of Attraction ? ?desire is born out of contrast.? What this means is that when you are experiencing something negative in you it prompts you to connect with what you really want in your life.
?When you find yourself in the midst of negative emotion... now here's a new twist to it. You are all understanding are you not that when you are feeling negative emotion it is your Inner Being telling you that you are RESISTING something that you WANT!! That is not an easy thing for everyone to understand ...? --Abraham-Hicks
If you hate your job, that negative experience is what summons from you your desire ? your dream ? for the kind of job you really want.
If you are in a "bad" relationship it prompts you to identify your desire to have an intimate, loving, and kind relationship.
Experiencing the negative, seeing the negative, identifying the negative acts like a wake-up call for you to embrace your dreams and desires. Bringing forth your dreams and desires in the world is what pulls you forward in your evolutionary growth and development.
Negative emotions become troublesome when you spend all of your time there. When something negative happens there is a tendency to embellish the event and tell your sad and sorry story to anyone who will listen ? even if you are just telling it to your self over and over again. We can easily get stuck in the negative and feel compelled to grind it into reality.
If you are experiencing something negative, the trick is to quickly identify what desire or dream it is conflicting with ? and then get off the negative.
When you are experiencing a negative experience quickly get the message you are sending to yourself about what it is that you really want and move on. Identify the dream or desire that is calling to you and put your attention there.
Now then, isn't that a more creative, resourceful, fun, and useful way to handle anything negative that is in your life?
Copyright (c) 2008 Mary Ann Copson
We become stopped - but do we have to be? Here are some steps that will give you some procrastination help in relation to those emotions.
1. Understand What Your Emotions Are
It is very important that we know what we are dealing with when we talk about our emotions. They are things about each of our natures that we cannot control. They react to factors which we have no control over. Things like temperature, the amount of sunshine, what we ate for lunch, reaction to others and their attitudes towards us (or, their perceived attitudes), situations beyond our control, etc.
Largely, emotions are affected by the situations that we face each day. For this reason, they are about as reliable as the weather - if we are waiting for good emotions. At work, we are expected to perform the same - regardless of whether or not its a bad hair day. Our children and mates expect a large degree of consistency from us - not just when we feel like it.
2. Learn To Control Those Emotions
We know very well that our boss would not tolerate some excuses. Why do we tolerate some excuses from ourselves as to why we do not do what needs to be done. The main procrastination help you need is to be able to see that emotions ought not to be the boss.
We all have ability to think our way around most of our emotions. It is when we tolerate certain emotions, and feed them (by allowing our minds to become focused on the thing, or person, that brought about that negative emotion), that they begin to prevent us from acting in a positive direction.
When our emotions are apt to get the best of us, here are some things that will give you some procrastination help during those moments:
? Recognize that dwelling on wrong emotions, or negative thoughts, will prevent you from achieving your goals.
? Enable yourself to focus on desired actions by having well thought of objectives for yourself.
? Replace negative thoughts by concentrating on how you are going to reach those objectives today.
Leave The Emotions Of Tomorrow Alone
Most of us have enough problems and causes for anxiety, frustration, etc., today. If we also allow ourselves to focus on tomorrow's potential problems (most of which will never happen), then we are increasing the potential for negative thoughts - and ultimately causing our own defeat.
Instead focus on where you want to go, and then, without tolerating a lot of thinking in a wrong direction, let your thoughts run toward the goal.
This way you can see greater energy being directed toward a single goal - which will mean a greater performance, and higher levels of accomplishment.
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