As Extracted from “Dirty Pickup Secrets” guide (a pick up girls guide), there are so many steps involved in picking up girls, namely: Preparation, Assessment, Approach, Attraction, Qualify, Connection, Arousal, Disarm, ...

So if your current pickup or dating strategy is not working, it might be time for you to consider changing your tactic and brush up your skills in these areas.

Bellow, we have listed down 5 basic tips for picking up girls.

1. It may sound counterintuitive but the best secret of pick up girls secrets is to be yourself. Even if you're only looking for one night of fun, it's difficult to maintain a persona that isn't you. Eventually either the strain of maintaining a façade will ruin the evening or the real you will come shining through. Either way it raises questions. Questions you probably don't want to answer.

2. Stay positive about yourself. People live up to expectations. We've all met Donnie Downer, you know the guy who expects the worse and usually gets it. Make a list of your positive attributes. Do you have a fun sense of humour? Are you a good listener? Do you take care of yourself? Do you have a nice smile, great teeth or good body?

Before you go out for the evening run over your list. Who wouldn't want to go out with someone like you?

3. Stay positive about the other person. If this is your first get together both of you will probably be a little excited and a lot nervous. That's not necessarily a good combination for getting to know someone. Focus on the positive characteristics of the other person. People like to talk about themselves. If a certain topic brings a smile then continue the conversation with questions that have to be answered by more than one word. For example Let's say you're talking about jazz. Don't ask Do you like XYZ musician That can be answered by one word, either yes or no. Ask What is it about XYZ musician that you like

4. Stay relaxed no matter what happens. You only have control over your own behavior. You can't help the weather, the busboy who dumps the beer tray on you, or the fact the other person isn't what you expected. If you stay relaxed you're open to new possibilities. If you get stressed you can miss opportunities because stress forces you to focus inwardly.

5. Take care of the basics. Clean, well dressed, and, shall we say prepared If that's what's on your mind take care of the necessities ahead of time. Scrounging around or stopping at a drug store can kill the mood quickly for both of you.

Be yourself, stay positive about yourself, stay positive about the other person, be relaxed and take care of the basics.

Last but not least, stop worrying about the outcome. Stop worrying about how things will end up. Stop worrying about what she'll think or say. More importantly, it means, stop worrying about upsetting or annoying her.