If I could have a dollar for every time a parent told me that their kids won't listen to them, I would be a very rich person. It is tough to get kids to listen all the time. But I would like to share with you some strategies that I have used with great success over the years:

With one of my kids, a 12 year old with ADHD, I actually go to him and place my hand on his shoulder to let him know that I need his attention. I do this because nothing else works. I want to make life easier for both of use so I continue to do what works for him.

Sam is an individual and has different needs than my other kids. He is ADHD and I must make an allowance for that, even though it is not an excuse. with my son Sam, I choose to focus on other things right now.

I have a 14 year old who is not ADHD and I know is capable of more than his other brothers. So I hold him to a much higher standard. This is my choice. I have always told me children that they are individuals and as such I will treat them as individuals.

This season Sam is playing soccer but my other children had a break. Because Sam has a talent and applies himself well to soccer I gave him an extra opportunity this year. I have yet to figure out how Sam can be so good with a ball but not concentrate in other areas. But we are constantly working on things together and he is improving.

When I talk to my children, they are expected to come immediately to help out. But I do still help my little one by going to her and getting down to her level. If you have a child under about 8 years of age, it can help to get down to their level. Even if it means getting onto the floor to talk to them, they will appreciate it and this will help you to connect with your child. It also helps the child realize that you are interested in their world.

If you call out through the house to your kids, guess what they will eventually do to you? It is vitally important to remember that kids copy what they live with. Kids are like leeches. They grab hold of everything. So make sure that you are modeling the things that you are happy to see your child do back to you. Children learn what they live with.

When we model listening to our kids, our kids will listen to us in return. It really is as simple as that. Don't expect your child to what you are not prepared to do for them. Parenting is a two way street and both parties need to work together to achieve success.

These are some things that I use to try and get my kids to listen to me. And no, my kids don't always do it right. They are still learning, as am I. The main thing is that we are willing to learn and do things differently. Lastly, when you do find something that works, keep on doing it.