If you're single and looking for love, how often does it seem like you are searching for a buried treasure? If finding love seems this difficult, it may be just the wrong place or time or it may be that you are looking too hard. In most cases, that which we are searching for is right in front of us. Ok, so maybe your dream mate isn't staring you in the face right now, but he/she may not be that far away either.

Many people think that being single is a curse, but it can be quite liberating. With that being said, everyone wants to have that someone special in their life. Believe it or not, the best way to find love is to stop looking for it. Like most things in life, what's meant to be will find you at the right time. Of course, you will have some say in the matter but, when the time and person are both right, all of the cards will fall into place.

Did you know that the way you carry yourself says a lot about you? It does and others will notice it. The next time you are out, pay a little more attention to your posture. Walk straight and try to smile. A friendly face is always inviting. When you present yourself with confidence, others will be drawn to you. It's important to practice this exercise not for the purpose of finding love, but for improving your overall self-esteem. When you feel better about yourself, others will feel better about you too.

A lot of singles go out with the sole purpose of finding a date. If these same old dating hot spots haven't worked for you in the past, why would they work now? Skip the old haunts and do something for yourself. Take in a movie, join a book club or treat yourself to dinner. You can meet someone at the grocery store, so why spend so much time at places that you may ‘think' your perfect mate is waiting? In most cases, you will discover that the things most worth having are those that find their way to you.

When you learn to enjoy being single and appreciate the independence that comes with it, you will discover that you have your own life with your own interests. Once you grow into the person that you are meant to be, you will be ready to find love and will be able to balance that newly-discovered independence with the joy of having a significant other. So, how can you find love without even looking? It's easy. Play hard to get and let love find you.