I'm sure you've seen it in the movies, it seems like every romantic comedy has this scene: the female protagonist, slumped in her sweatpants on her couch, red-faced and puffy-eyed with a Kleenex dangling out of her nose and threatening to plop into her fifty-gallon bucket of ice cream, bawling out desperate pleas to figure out why her boyfriend left her. Even if real life rarely gets that dramatic, breakups feel like that, and being left with that bewildered feeling of not knowing why he left is horrible...so let me help you figure out what went wrong!

Now, there are a lot of things that could make your guy want to head for the hills, and some are fairly reasonable while others are just stupid. You have to bear in mind that not every single problem can be dealt with, but the majority of them really are...so long as you get on it and do it right. It generally holds true that most relationships can be salvaged, if you can figure out what made it tank...so I'm going to list off some of the biggest problems so you can see if anything rings a bell.

1) Girls, you know those movies where the guy has this unbelievably overbearing girlfriend who nags him to no end, calling him every half hour to see where he's at, and every time someone mentions he laughs and jokes about what a demon she is? Well, in real life, the guy doesn't laugh and joke about it, he gets steamed and hates his life. There is very little in this world that will make a guy want to head for the hills like a girlfriend who can't leave him alone.

This usually doesn't get to such an extreme, but if you catch yourself nagging him like this, you need to stop a sec and think about it. This kinda thing can happen without you realizing it, and before you know it he's gone to find somebody who won't make him pull his hair out.

2) A painful reason for a guy to leave his girl is when there's another person in the picture. Whether it's the woman who's cheating on him, or he has someone else he's either interested in or has already started getting with, a LOT of relationships are pulled apart by outside interference, usually invited in by one of the people in the relationship.

You can avoid this in two ways...the first aspect of it you can avoid by NOT CHEATING on him. If he's just not enough for you, end it yourself and THEN go find someone else...don't wreck his heart in the process by seeing someone else while you're still together. To prevent HIM wandering a bit, don't tighten the dog's leash and make mistake #1...instead make the kennel more comfortable. Make him happy enough to where he doesn't NEED to stray. Some guys just simply can't stay with one woman for very long, but most guys should be content to be with somebody special without anyone else tempting them.

3) When a relationship gets kind of old and stale, and nobody's really investing a whole lot into it anymore...you could have problems holding onto him. Inactivity is a serious killer of relationships, and it seriously saddens me to think about it. Whatever the reason, be it work, class, or friends...sometimes people just don't have the appropriate time to spend with one another, and that can lead down an unhappy road.

Best way to keep him interested and with you is to try to keep stuff interesting and spontaneous. Spend whatever time together the two of you can, and if there isn't any time...MAKE time. It's really important that the two of you manage to keep together, because there's really no reason why two people that love each other should get bored and call it quits.

Well, those are a few of the bigger causes of relationships ending with the guy deciding it's time to move on (which is a nicer way of saying "dumping you"). This is by no means the absolute definitive work on relationship killers, but it's pretty complete as far as the main ones go, and a lot of the unmentioned contributors to breakups are at least somewhat related to these three.