Have you ever noticed that when it comes to OTHER people’s relationships, everyone suddenly turns into a private eye?
Just tell them what's going on in someone else's relationship and they will simply roll their eyes and say "well she's cheating on him" or "he's screwing someone else".
A funny thing happens though when it comes to your own relationships. People go from being "super detective" to becoming deaf, dumb and blind.
The truth is they lack OBJECTIVITY.
They cannot look at their own relationships with any objectivity. They can detect someone in another relationship cheating from a distance, but can't do the same with their own.
And this is the 3rd notorious mistake people make when they think they're being cheated on.
You absolutely must get perspective on your relationship -- examine the facts -- and add everything up from there.
This is also known as becoming emotionally detached.
Let me put it to you this way.
Think back to one of the happiest periods in your life – a time where a lot of things seemed to be going right.
Now, if during that time one of your friends had come to you to "lean on your shoulder" about some relationship issues they were having (and as it turns out their problems are precisely the same as what you're now going through), what would your thinking been?
Not what are your thoughts right now, but what would your thoughts have been about this during that happy period in your life.
You probably would have a different take about your relationship back then you do now.
You see, right now you don't have any clarity, any objectivity.
But you need to get it right now -- and bad.
Try to look at your relationship as if it were someone else's. It's not easy to do, but everyone has the ability to do it.
Do it, and you'll probably be surprised at what you come up with.
