As a guy, I look at women with complete appreciation, desire, and clear and total confusion. Women are a delicate and delectable creation that makes a man want more while driving him away with fear and trepidation. Women, on the other hand, seem to be so well put together that if you asked any of them what they wanted, they would probably only have one answer, "Whatever they can't have."

Women have a strong and strange tendency to desire what just isn't available to them. Women confess pining over married men, being turned on by rejection, and becoming bored with a guy that gives them everything they want too quickly. Women are in on the game too, ya know. While some women have mastered the art of straight forward communication, many women aren't even all that sure why they are craving you one minute and completely disillusioned the next.

So, what's a guy to do, right? Do we stay just out of reach? Do we risk finding a fabulous woman only to have her toss us around like a chew toy only to discard us when her fun is all done? Probably not. In most cases, women need to ease into having someone that they are truly crazy about. Some women will come barreling out of the gate, scare you senseless with talk about marriage and living together, only to decide that they are bored with you within fifteen minutes of returning the moving truck.

So how does a guy cope? For starters, we can't control women, their wants, or their behaviors. We can only control how we react to what we perceive as irrational behavior. Yet I completely recommend starting any brand new relationship off on the easy does it plan. The easy does it plan is designed to help you remain "unattainable" while still getting at least some of what you want. So you fell hard and fast and think she might even be the one for you. Great! Take it easy. Don't let her in on it too quickly. Give her time to really decide what she wants. The take it easy method helps prevent your little heart from falling flat while gives her ample time to feel as though she can't completely have something until she is ready. As time goes by and the relationship develops, you will start to recognize whether the relationship is truly moving forward or if you are just on the list of the "can't haves."

For women, it's like dieting. They can deny themselves over and over and over again until they finally cheat. When they cheat, it is a huge relief to them and so they eat until they can't get another mouthful down the gullet. Relationships in their early stages are like that. You might be the guy for her. Or you might be the chocolate that entices her off her diet. Either way, you need to take it slowly while she figures out how much of you she really wants.

Women can also be incredibly decisive, and some women (and some of these women scare me) decide exactly what they want and decide that they will have it. There won't be any going slow in her book, and she will ultimately help you to feel as though she is everything you need as well. Take your time anyway, because this behavior is also indicative of a woman who is going to play with you to her heart's content and then chuck you out with the kitty litter.