Remember the things you used to notice. Their good qualities and let them know that you still notice. If your wife puts on a dress and fixes her hair let her know how beautiful she is.
Or maybe your husband does something out of the ordinary like the dishes, let him know that you appreciate it.Plan activities together, go on dates, make goals together and go for them. Work on being the perfect marriage partner and make things like you always wanted them to be.
Before you got married you had an image of what things would be like, you had a dream. Even though life throws you challenges you have somebody to go thought those challenges with and that dream is always a possibility.
When either of you start to have concerns about the relationship, step back then give each other space and take the necessary step to ensure a happy life together.
Remember Long Term
Marriage is so disposable these days and people see that. They might think because everybody is doing it that it makes it okay. Just because everybody is doing it, I think it makes it less okay.
You are not everybody else. You should want to be the exception and the example for other couples that you know. Be stronger and get through the challenges life throws your way.
Nobody signs up for half of what they get when they get married but you had to have known that it was'nt gonna be easy. Things are easier said then done and thats why, you need to make a commiment to yourself to make things work.
Counseling
a lot of people see counseling as the beginning of the end. This is far from the truth. In doing this you're showing your partner how much you are willing to make this work.
A counselor has techniques and exercises you wont find anywhere else. It is also easier talking to someone that can see the picture like your friends and family can't. Have you ever ask your family for relationship advice?
Normally, they'll say the same things.Everything will be okay, Give it time. This might be good advice but it normally doesn't help the situation.
