I know I did and alot of men have the same kind of problem and alot of guys have done something about it and I'll, today, give you the first babysteps in getting from where you are now, to a guy who can step up to any woman at any time at any place.

So, the first step in seducing women, is actually being able to talk to them. But what you are doing now is that you wait, you might even stand close to her and get eye contact. If you get it, you hope she comes up to you and opens you with "hey sexy".

Wellll, guess what, the chances for that are pretty slim, so the only alternative is that YOU walk up to her and start the conversation.

And this is pretty easy, buuuut it feels hard... The main problem is the pretty famous saying "The only fear, is fear itself". Because talking to people is not weird or scary. You do it to dozens a day!

But still, you think bad things will happen to you when you talk to strangers.... Well, let's take a look from a different perspective.

Let's do a small exercise for this. It is very easy and you should really do it. In the worst case, you loose 2 minutes of your time....Well, play a computergame less for 2 minutes and you are balanced for today again. So do this, think about it, sit down on a chair and only focus on this for 1 minute. Leave your cigaret, don't sip on your coke and stop biting your nails. Here it comes

What is the worst thing that can happen to you when you approach a woman? Imagine the situation, see what happens.

Think about it for at least one minute.

Done? No?

Now?

You really did it, right? If not, stop reading and do it! You have to take action and do it, otherwise you can ignore everything else below as well, because that'll take a minute of your time as well.

Well, I don't know you personally, so I can't reply to your personal answer, but these answers could be possible; "she can laugh at me", "she can ignore me", "she can take a stick from the ground and beat me on the head", "she can kick me in the nuts and lock me in the elevator". Really, the most absolute nonsense can be the worst possible scenario your brain could come up with.

Are these really realistic fears? NO!

The most possible thing is that she ignores you (far more often than her hitting you with a stick) but that's only a very small percentage of what is actually happening when you conversate with strangers. They almost all respond positive! The few that ignore you, well, they are so a-social, that it's even better that they ignore you! You don't want to hang around with people like that, do you? It's her problem, not yours, you actually avoided that problem!

Most people like it when you talk to them and fill up the boring sience when they are witing for the bus or metro. Instead of looking straight ahead into the distance they can have fun with you! Think off all the fun conversations you have with your friends and imagine you can have them with strangers...and you know what....You can! When you start talking to strangers, you are improving and developing yourself, so you will be able to approach your dream woman when you meet her in the future. You will feel good about yourself and you have all rights to!

There are more techniques to convince you and get you motivated and all pumped up, but I won't go into more details on that right now.

Oke, so how do we start with approaching women? Well, start small and become more social!

Step 1:

Just say "hi" to random strangers on the street when you walk up to them. Smile cusually with it and get eye contact. Alot of them are really perceptive for it and say hi back or they are stunned that you do it and can't even say hi back. You will make their day, because such a cool guy was initiating contact and far most people like that and appriciate it.

Step 2:

Make random remarks to strangers. You can start with asking directions (even if you don't need to go there), ask about the weather ("nice weather eh?"), ask about something they are doing "do you like that book so far?", about the bus "aah, you just missed the bus", or about gas prices "damn, did the gas prices explode yesterday?"

Other steps might follow later.

This is the first step in seducing women, because if you can't initiate contact with them, then the group of women you might seduce decreases fast, very fast and you are limiting yourself in a terrible way. Another advantage of becoming more social and talking to strangers is that you will get more friends, which automatically leads to better times in your life (more parties, things to do, job opportunities etc).

Why start small? Because you want to be ready when a dreamwoman is in front of you, and you don't want that to be your first approach.