Your first homework assignment is to write down on a piece of paper ten characteristics, at a minimum, that describe you. There are no right or wrong answers to this question.

However, I will give you a clue. The characteristics that you use to describe yourself are exactly the characteristics you will be looking for in your potential mate.

Next describe the type of activities you like to do in your spare time. Do you play a musical instrument? Do you like the arts? Are you a homebody or are you constantly on the go? What are your hobbies?

Again for your homework, write down on that same piece of paper ten things, at a minimum, you like to do in your spare time.

Then there are a number of other questions that are important for you to answer: Are you looking to have children with your potential mate? Do you have any children? Are they living with you? How do you feel about meeting women with children? How many children would be acceptable to you?

What is the importance of religion in your life? How do you feel about your potential mate's religious orientation? Where do you live? Do you live in a city or in a rural area? How will your potential mate feel about your community?

Do you own your own home? Do you have a proper place for her to live? Do you have enough money to support a wife and family? Does your potential mate plan on working when she comes to your country? Do you want her or need her to work?

It is important to understand that there are no right or wrong answers to these questions. They are simply to aid you in your self-awareness. They are a starting point. No doubt you will refine your thinking as the process goes on.

This is perfectly normal, but it is important for you to formulate the kind of questions to ask your potential mate. These questions will serve as icebreakers and will give you more insight into the thoughts and values of the women you will meet.