Despite the negative stereotypes that portray men as only desiring the physical aspects of a relationship, most women know that there is more to a man than just his sexuality. But even though women understand the complexity of man's emotions and psyche, there are plenty who have yet to attract the men they desire. They fail to connect with their targets on both physical and emotional levels. This can be a result of misunderstanding exactly what men want from a relationship. Here are some quick tips to understanding the needs of a man in order to help you become more attractive to them.

Freedom

There is a natural resistance in all people to avoid being constrained or told what to do. Men are certainly not exempt from this concept, and many women have suffered through the experience of being too pushy with their partner only to find him becoming more distant from them. We all like to feel that we make decisions based on what is best for us, and the more someone tries to convince us to see their point of view, the more likely we are to resist. For this reason it is important for women to give equal power in decision making. By making your man feel like he chose or agreed to something, you will help him feel more connected with the relationship.

Fantasy

No relationship will ever take off unless there is significant passion and attraction involved. But attraction isn't always connected with physical attributes. Men enjoy fantasizing about the potential of a relationship and the exciting things that may happen in the future. As a woman, you should focus on building the curiosity of your man. Don't share your entire life story in the first few dates. Instead, leave subtle hints about what you have to offer and where the relationship might lead to. You need to help him visualize the reward for giving you his full attention. Keep him close to you, but always leave him begging for more.

Challenge

Nothing kills a relationship as severely as boredom. As soon as your man believes that he has experienced the best you have to offer the honeymoon is over. He will begin to wonder what he is doing with you and why he should continue to stick around. For this reason it is important to keep things exciting and entertaining in order to keep his interest. Of course it is acceptable to have a few quiet nights at home, but you should also keep him on his toes. Always keep yourself one step ahead of him by planning surprise dates and getaways. The more excitement you can create around your relationship, the more the passion will grow.

Understanding what men really want is the key to keeping them around for a long-term relationship. Realizing that it will take more than good looks to captivate a man is the first step in winning his heart. You need to allow him to maintain his individuality while keeping him focused on your goals together. This requires the perfect balance of romance, curiosity, and excitement.