So you successfully got them through the beginning stages and you and they both survived it. Now you no longer have to worry about diapers, potty training, choking on a hot dog or getting head lice. They have now made it over those hurdles and you have all survived. It is time to celebrate.

Not. You are getting a whole night's sleep, and you are going to need it, believe me. You thought the hard part was over, but this is only the beginning. And I have some helpful basics to get you through the beginnings.

Defiance should be expected. They will use it to test you, as well as learn, so don't take it personally. It will be over in a few years. Keep calm. The best way to cope with a teen that is upset is to remain calm, by speaking slowly and using active listening.

Don’t be afraid to ask questions and get answers, the don’t ask don’t tell policy doesn’t work real well. Ignoring things or avoiding subjects that are uncomfortable for you is not a good way to parent. You need to deal with the issues head on and the more you know the better equipped you will be to handle your child and the problems that may come up.

The last and by far the most important rule for parenting a teenager is that your job is that of a parent and not a friend. You must continue to keep in mind that if they were old enough and had good enough judgment to take care of themselves than they wouldn't need a parent to care for them. Teens need guidance and support and they need a parent that is willing to say no even when it is an unpopular answer. Be brave parents and don't allow those teens to guilt you into anything. Think through your answers and stand firmly behind your decisions, no matter what they say or do, or threaten to say or do. Keep your cool and stand your ground.