Maybe you just started an Internet business a couple months ago and your results are poor. Maybe you're going through a divorce. Maybe a loved one recently died. I can go on and on, but I won't, because no matter what life situation I write, it all leads to one thing: You think tomorrow won't be any better, so you feel like quitting everything, including your business. Does this sound like you right now? If so, I urge you to read my story. I finally break my silence about some of the personal challenges I faced, and I ask you the question: Are you deleting, quitting or selling your Internet business for the wrong reasons?
2006 was quite a challenging year for me. It was the year my marriage ended. It was also the year something VERY traumatic happened to me that changed the way I worked online for quite some time: I was stalked online by an ex-friend for nearly one full year.
I had met him at an Internet marketing forum. We had been friends for several months. But over time, he had begun to show signs of being mentally unstable. He had become extremely negative about anything and everything. He suddenly wanted to know where I was going, to whom I was talking, and what seminars I would be attending. He told me to stop making blog posts, take down my photos, and stop using my full name online. He was becoming very possessive and VERY dark. At that point, I knew I needed to sever all ties with him. But stopping all contact with him did not stop him from trying to talk to me. Over time, I realized that he was using two fake identities to talk to me. To this day, I still don't know his real full name.
This experience was extremely painful. While we were still friends, the male who was cyberstalking me sent me a keylogger (basically he was spying on me), which my anti-virus software did not detect until it was too late. By the time the friendship ended, he took over some of my accounts on various online forums. Nearly all of my email addresses were hijacked, with no way for me to restore the passwords. If I used my full name anywhere online, he followed me. The message he was sending me was clear: He wanted me to leave the Internet entirely!
The male who was cyberstalking me knew my home address, because I gave it to him when we were friends. Every time I stepped outside my home, I felt threatened. I was constantly looking over my shoulder, and I always had my guard up, waiting for that moment when I would need to defend myself physically. In the end, I decided that the only way to stop him from following me for good was to stop using my full name and to stop socializing online. I then made the decision to delete or sell several sites that he knew I owned, so that he would FINALLY leave me alone.
Take Flight or Fight?
All that I had been through is enough for anyone to pack up their virtual bags and leave the Internet for good. But I had been through far more challenging years in my life, and I knew that, if I could survive those years and turn out fine, then I could rise to this challenge and get my personal and business lives back on track without fearing a thing.
I've learned a valuable lesson that perhaps you can take something from. I lived in fear and in a constant state of paranoia for months. And that fear and paranoia drove me into deleting and selling some of my businesses that I had once loved. The message you should take with you today is this: Don't let your fears or life's challenges drive you into quitting or selling your business when YOU KNOW that's just taking the easy way out.
My fears were retested in January, August, and October of this year, when the male who cyberstalked me in the past TRIED to bother me again. This time around, I chose to ignore him rather than vanish off the face of the Web. He can't invoke fear in me anymore.
It's Your Choice to Make Tomorrow Better
Now that you read my story about some of the wrong choices I made out of fear, are you deleting, quitting, or selling your Internet business for all the WRONG reasons? If it is a rough patch in your life, can you wait for it to pass and still keep your business? If it is it the uncertainty of not making money online that tells you to quit, can you destroy that negative inner voice and then build a business that is great? What if someone told you tomorrow CAN be better? Well, I'm here to tell you that it CAN and it WILL be better. But it starts with YOU AND YOUR THOUGHT PROCESS. Erase any uncertainty and negativity in your mind, and I GUARANTEE you will feel as if you're soaring in life and feeling empowered, strong, and extraordinarily free. Now take your business to new heights and break free of your fears.