If you feel like you are having trouble finding dates, you aren't alone. One of the biggest complaints you will hear a single person has would be that there are just no people out there to meet. While this is silly, because there are people everywhere, I do understand where this thought process comes from. I'm married now, but that doesn't mean I don't understand the frustration of finding dates. It's not easy to find someone to go out with who you will end up wanting to date again. Finding dates is easy, finding good dates is a bit harder.

You can go about finding dates in a variety of ways, and the most common is by going out and trying to meet people. Some people try to do this in bars, but this rarely works out very well. It's not that there are plenty of people looking to find dates out in bars, it just means that most of them aren't looking for more than one night of companionship. You can meet the man or woman of your dreams in a bar, but don't be surprised if it doesn't happen that way.

Many people try finding a date in the classifieds. This started in local papers, and has since moved onto the Internet. Finding a date this way actually works for some people, and many people have met their spouses on Internet dating sites. Just for fun, I ran through an online dating site and looked at the pictures of those looking for dates in this manner. To be honest, most of them looked pleasant, and many were good looking. Of course, when trying to find dates, looks are only part of the equation, but it is something that attracts you initially to someone else.

If you are having trouble finding a date this way as well, you may have to step back and have a look at your life. Are you too needy? Are you unfulfilled? You have to be straight in your own life to find someone to be with if you want a good and solid relationship.

People can smell desperation, and if you are acting in this manner while finding dates, you aren't going to find many people interested. Most people want someone who is good on their own, and only wishes to find someone to share their life with, not wrap their life around. Be whole before you start lokking for dates, and you may soon find the dates are finding you.