Prior to my adventure at Mt. Bachelor, I would look at "powder" and would turn the opposite direction. My past experience with powder taught me that powder was heavy, hard to maneuver, would throw off my balance and if I wasn't careful, I would end up on my face struggling to get out of the mess I got myself into. I loathed the stuff so, I made the conscious decision to stay clear and avoid powder situations.
When I began my first day on Mt. Bachelor, all of the skiers in my group told the instructor, "We don't do powder." I thought that would settle it. The instructor, John, first asked about my past experience and the results I had when I last skied powder. I love what John did next. HE VALIDATED ME! He didn't make me wrong, and instead told me how most people feel that way before they know a few tips and secrets to make it much easier and a lot more fun. John's response caught my interest. Maybe I could learn a trick or two.
Next, John took one challenge I had experienced in the past skiing powder and gave me one simple tip to improve my balance so I wouldn't get knocked around. After helping me to understand how my body should feel, he pointed to a section of powder and said, "Go for it."
So much for staying clear of the stuff! I didn't want to say no. I was ready to give up the opportunity to get over my fear and at the same time get some great tips from an expert skier. So, I did it. My first attempt was scary and I survived. I even wanted to do it repeatedly in order to improve on my new skill.
By lunch, I was actually having fun in powder for the first time ever. John was patient, held me accountable and would not let me revert back to old tendencies. He was great at calling me on small things, like when my arm position was getting lazy and my balance got thrown off as a result. When I felt frustrated, he tweaked my body position slightly and had me practice again. And when I succeeded, John was right there to celebrate with me. This entire process helped to build my confidence and confidence allowed me to feel comfortable getting uncomfortable and doing something new.
By the end of the day, I didn't recognize myself. On the last run of the day, I turned to John with a big grin and asked, "Can we ski over there?" and I pointed to a patch of knee high powder that was pleading to be skied. By the end of the weekend, I was searching for powder on every run and was skiing in and out of the trees, realizing that I had reached the next level in my skiing ability. Had I stayed at my previous level, I would have missed out on all of the fun. I can't wait until next year to go and ski some powder!
The ski weekend at Mt. Bachelor, taught me a valuable lesson about perspective and how a new experience can change a person's perspective. John's ability to help me change my perspective about skiing powder is the same power I have for my clients. Understanding these lessons and applying them to coaching, I am able to investigate, validate, educate, direct, hold accountable, tweak, and help celebrate each client's success. Whoo Hoo! Bring on the Powder!