The greatest experiences in our lives are those times when we become aware that we are not just "good" but phenomenal at being ourselves. It doesn't matter what role you're playing, where you work, or if you're married or single. It boils down to "there's just one you" and although you make mistakes occasionally, the uniqueness of your individuality sometimes flashes brilliant. These times bring a strong focus to your unfolding life.
A well-lived life will have many points when this realization comes to light. I love to hear my client's feedback when they have aha moments - "Damn! I'm Good!": "Damn, I'm Good!"
Realizing just how great you are may come as a 'moment in time' to be reflected upon for years to come. Instances of this are the completion of a phenomenal piece of art, an outstanding presentation, negotiation, decision, bold move - truly making a difference in yours or another person's life.
It's sad to think that when you recognize your greatness, you might instantly flip to "Oh but I need to improve this area.". Because of the way you were raised, you were likely taught to focus on what you do that's wrong: 'You learn from your mistakes.'
Though we do learn from our mistakes, we can learn even more by acknowledging our strengths and building upon them! What you think about becomes your reality. Would you rather create a reality of what you do wrong or what you do right?
Think about any great athlete. When they begin their game, are their feelings doubtful, fearful, mere assumptions or idle projections? Those preoccupations get them nowhere. Greatness is created by continually focusing upon that at which you are really, really good today and what strengths or traits you want to enhance tomorrow.
This week, prepare an inventory of what you are great at. Ask others to help. Think back to when you felt the best about yourself. It doesn't matter what others thought, just what you thought. No other individual can know you better than you can yourself. Did you allow these times to go by without stopping to say "I so Rock?"
Use the word 'period' freely and often in this exercise. For example, the statement "I am great at problem solving, period." has a lot more meaning than "I am great at problem- solving in this one area, but in others _____." If you degrade yourself by continuing the sentence after the word 'period,' it defeats the purpose of realizing your greatness.
You can realize your greatness while simply being you without becoming arrogant. It's now, so stand tall and be counted as one astonishing and talented person. Recognize and celebrate it. Enjoy your discoveries and have an stimulating week.