Before I start to talk about teen relationships I feel I have to make a clarification. Many people when they think of the word relationship, automatically equate it to love or sexual relationship. According to the general definition of relationship this is any connection between two or more elements and these elements can be anything from chemical substances to human beings. So from this definition it is simple to deduct the meaning of this word applied to human beings. A teen relationship can be any kind of relationship
between teens of the same gender
between teens of the opposite gender, like boyfriend girlfriend relationships
between teens and other persons of the same or different gender and different age.
The quality of these relationships can also vary, but there are two kinds of teenager relationships I'm going to talk about here;
teen friendships and
teen love relationships
Teen Friendships
This kind of teenager relationship will fit into all three categories above. It can exist between a teenager and other persons of same or different gender and age. A good friend - no matter age or gender - is one of the best things you can have on this earth. A really good friend that is special to you and means much to you. A person that is always there for you.
Many successful love relationships has started with friendship and this is probably the reason for it's success. The better you know the other person, the better you'll go along with him or her and in a long lasting love relationship - as man and woman - your appreciation of your partner as a friend will mean much more than anything else. If we look at it from the other end, it seems much more difficult to build a friendship from a love or sexual relationship. In fact, I have not heard about it, maybe you have but the point is that a good friendship is always good to have both as a basis of a future love relationship and as a friendship by itself.
A teenage friendship can exist between anyone no matter what gender, age, race, background or whatever. A 13 year old girl and a 50 year old man can have a great and even lifelong friendship together as well as two teenagers of the same gender.
Teen love relationships
While you can talk quite frankly and straight forward in a friendship most of us are more aware of not hurting the partner in a love relationship. This can evolve to a degree of lies and even no communication at all just to protect your partner.
There are also more mutual expectations in a love relationship and more intimate emotions are involved than in a good friendship. A teen love relationship can be great and long lasting but if there is no basis of friendship in it the probability of sustaining it is significantly lower. There are some legally defined limitations with regards to who can go into a teen love or sexual relationship. It is illegal for people of 18 years and above to have a sexual relation to a minor but It is definitely not illegal to have older friends.
A good friendship is one of the best gifts God has provided our lives with and even if you marry the sweetest boy or girl in the world, neither of you will be happy if you aren't good friends.
Violence In Teen Relationships
SuperCamps facilitators have found the following advice to be useful in helping parents build rapport with teens and pre-teens:
Know what they like, how they think, and how they feel about whats happening in their lives.
Imagine what they say to themselves, about themselves.
Know what keeps them from getting what they truly want. If you dont know, ask.
Speak the truth to them in a way they can hear it, clearly and gently.
Have fun with them.
Treat them as equals.
Many of the beliefs taught and practiced at SuperCamp are valuable to any family seeking to enhance the parent-teen relationship. Four of the core fundamental beliefs of SuperCamp are:
Respect and caring for ourselves and for others is vitally important.
Every person is gifted and capable of learning.
There are no failures, only learning experiences through which we gain greater self-understanding.
Positive support, a nurturing environment, and good communication are essential for learning and for life.
Parents who make an effort to build their relationships with their children will also build their feelings of acceptance and trust which will in turn build their self confidence. Self-confidence is a vital ingredient in the happiness and academic success of our children.
SuperCamps exceptional staff go in-depth with campers from age 9 to 18 on how to build strong relationships with friends and family and on many other life and learning skills that help build grades, confidence and motivation.
The seven-day Youth Forum is held exclusively for students going into grades 4-5 in the fall. Junior Forum and Senior Forum are 10 days long. Junior Forum is for incoming 6-8 graders and Senior Forum is for incoming 9-12 graders. SuperCamp also runs a college boot camp, Quantum U, an 8-day program for incoming college freshmen.
SuperCamp is held at eight beautiful colleges across the U.S. throughout the summer. Quantum U takes place at Colorado College in Colorado Springs. More information on our programs is available at supercamp dot com and quantum-u dot com
The summer program also offers a unique 3-day Parent Weekend at which parents of kids in SuperCamp gain an insight into what their children are learning in their programs. In the process, parents say they learn a lot about themselves, as well.
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