Make Friends With your Fellow Employees (and Boss)

By: Ernie Fitzpatrick

We all have a tendency to SEE the WRONG that exists in other people's lives and that would be okay if there were two conditions attached to it. First, can we keep what we see to ourselves and do all we can to help the situation? Secondly, can we then look in the mirror and see what's wrong with us and work on that? There is this mindset in man that seems to think that if we see something wrong in someone else that we are "deputized" by some secret power to correct and otherwise oversee that situation. Wrong!

"Why do you see the splinter in your brother's eye but not the log in yours?" Matt. 7:3

The problem is exponentially increased if that person happens to be either a spouse of someone whom we have been placed under. It is especially difficult for those who work for an employer, to take their money, enjoy the rewards of that employment (no matter how large or small), and yet criticize and otherwise demean that employer. It's called biting the hand that feeds you.

"Intolerance is not a sign of holiness"

Too often our intolerance actually puts us in a place of being the adversary and completely assuring us of the fact that we will NOT be able to speak into a person's life when just the opposite was our intent. It's old but the cliche still applies that "we can catch more with honey than vinegar." Christians have continually committed the error, down through the ages, of being purveyors of vinegar. The results have been as minute as judgements, and as large as the Crusades!

We have somehow forgotten the golden rule of "treating OTHERS as we would like to be treated." There is no EMPLOYER or supervisor that is perfect. Can we also agree that there is no EMPLOYEE that is perfect? So, can we agree that we're all hindered in some fashion. So, given this disclaimer, let's move on to the principle of submission to authority. Obey them that are over you unless there is some overt and direct crime being asked of you. Don't argue preferences unless your opinion is asked for.

"The right to be heard does not automatically include the right to be taken seriously." H. Humphrey

Loyalty is a principle as high as the principle of "speaking truth" as far as an employer is concerned. Maybe, more so. One of the things that most employees have a hard time dealing with is incompetence or perceived errors within the work place. What we see though is that those employees who can TOLERATE and ACCEPT people for WHO THEY ARE, are the ones most likely to be promoted. The work place is not a place to PREACH but a place to WORK. Far more is accomplished by our "work habits" than our TALK about them. People want to follow PRODUCERS. Employers want to hire and promote PRODUCERS. This does not mean that you don't SHARE your thoughts, feelings, and philosophy of life, but that you share them when they are ASKED FOR!

"If you laid all of man's opinions end to end, there would be no end."

So, let us put a muzzle on our "judgmental passions" and tend to the affairs to which we are being paid. I might also add, to those affairs that we'd like to be paid MORE. And, at the same time, may we develop a compassion and an understanding for our fellow co-workers wherein we care more for them as a result of their shortcomings instead of being more angry because of it. Unless civilization has a made a major shift, you'll enjoy life a lot more as a result of this behavior.

"You can't say civilization isn't advancing: in every war, they kill you in a new way." Will Rogers

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