A Wedding Anniversary GuideHistory, Themes, Gifts & Etiquette

By: J Wilson

Wedding anniversaries are an ideal opportunity for married couples to celebrate their love for one another and remember why they decided to marry in the first place. 

In 1937 the American National Retail Jewellery Association issued a comprehensive list of representative materials for all the traditional wedding anniversary gifts by year for up to the 15th Anniversary and then every fifth year after that up to the 60th. Traditionally,

  • gifts exchanged or given in the early years of marriage were practical household items to aid the couple in starting a new home together (an extension of the wedding gift).
  • Luxury gifts tend to be given in the later years when the couple has already acquired things they need.
  • The more cynical-minded might see the increase in gift value over time as an incentive to stay married!

Wedding Anniversary Gifts by Year
The following section outlines the main wedding anniversaries, associated themes and provides some useful gift suggestions.

1) 1st Wedding Anniversary Gifts - Paper

Traditionally the theme is paper which is supposed to symbolize the strength obtained from the interlocking fibres. The modern take on this is a clock for reasons to do with timeless, eternal love. The precious metals/gemstones associated with the first wedding anniversary are gold jewellery, pearls or peridot. The associated colour is gold or yellow and the relevant flower is the orange blossom or pansy.

Gift ideas include a photo album, commemorative newspaper, wedding day chart, personalised poem, share certificate, movie/concert ticket, photograph by a professional photographer, subscription to a favourite magazine; have a star named after a loved one or a clock.

2) 2nd wedding anniversary Gifts - Cotton

Traditionally cotton gifts are given because cotton has always been associated with prosperity and durability. The modern gift theme is china. The relevant gemstone is Garnet, and the associated colour is red. If you are going to give flowers then the go for Cosmos (which means modesty).

Gift ideas relevant to the cotton theme include a (personalised) bathrobe, towel or tee shirt, and for china how about a (personalised) trinket box, mug or anniversary plate.

3) 3rd Wedding Anniversary Gifts - Leather

Traditionally leather gifts are given based on the durability of this material being analogous to the durability of your marriage! The contemporary theme is crystal or glass (not so durable!)

If you are going to give your partner jewellery then opt for pearl or jade. The relevant colour theme is white or green, and associated flower is the Fuchsia (which means taste).

Gift ideas for the third wedding anniversary include leather wallet, handbag or briefcase, leather bound book, engraved vase, perfume bottle, wine or champagne glasses, engraved glass tokens or perhaps an engraved decanter.

4) 4th Wedding Anniversary Gifts – Fruit/Flowers

Traditionally fruit or flowers are meant to symbolize a blossoming and fruitful relationship. Less romantic modern, albeit practical thinking, suggests giving electrical appliances!

The relevant gemstone is Blue Topaz with the colour theme is blue or green. If you’re planning to give flowers then the suggested bloom is the geranium (which incidentally means folly or stupidity!)

Some gift suggestions for a fourth wedding anniversary are cut flowers, a basket of fruit, and engraved glass flower token, rose bush, or shares in Apple Corp.

5) 5th Wedding Anniversary Gifts - Wood

Traditionally the theme of the fifth wedding anniversary is wood which symbolizes a strong and long lasting marriage. The modern gift theme is silverware. The relevant gemstone is sapphire and the appropriate colour theme is blue, pink and turquoise. The flower you are supposed to give is the daisy which represents innocence and love.

Suggested gift ideas include planting a tree, a personalised jigsaw, personalised wine box, wooden commemorative plaque, photo personalised coasters or placemats

6) 10th Wedding Anniversary Gifts – Tin/Aluminium

Traditional materials are tin or aluminium symbolizing the flexibility and malleability of a good relationship. The contemporary theme and gemstone is diamond. The relevant colour is silver or blue and the appropriate flower is the daffodil (trumpet-shaped daffodils represent joy, cheerfulness, and happiness).

Gift ideas include – personalised number plate, engraved brushed aluminium frame or a personalised teddy in a tin.

7) 15th Wedding Anniversary Gifts - Crystal

Traditional gift material is crystal and the contemporary theme is watches. The relevant gemstone is ruby. Gift ideas include engraved crystal tankards, champagne flute and wine glasses. Appropriate colour theme is ruby red. If flowers are to be given Roses are the appropriate choice.

*) 20th Wedding Anniversary Gifts - China

The traditional theme is china and the modern theme is platinum with the gemstone being emerald. Recommended gift ideas include personalised anniversary plate, personalised trinket box or dinner service. Relevant colour theme is emerald green or white and flowers are Lillies.

(0 25th Wedding Anniversary Gifts - Silver

Silver gifts are given to celebrate this important milestone wedding anniversary. The appropriate flower is the Iris. Suggestions for gifts include a silver anniversary candle, engraved silver picture frame or silver plated champagne flutes.

10) 30th Wedding Anniversary Gifts – Pearl

The traditional material associated with this one is pearls and the relevant flower is the Sweet Pea with a green colour scheme. Ideal gifts include a pearl necklace or engraved mother of pearl trinket box.

11) 40th Wedding Anniversary Gifts – Ruby

Ruby is the theme for this wedding anniversary and the appropriate flower is the nasturtium. Gift ideas include ruby jewellery or a bottle of port.

12) 50th Wedding Anniversary Gifts - Gold

One of the big ones! Gold is the order of the day and the relevant flower is violet. Gift ideas include any gold jewellery or perhaps a gold hearts wedding anniversary album.

13) 60th Wedding Anniversary Gifts - Diamond

Now it starts to get really expensive – Diamonds! This is the first of two diamond anniversaries, the other being 75 years.

14) 75th Wedding Anniversary Gifts

The 75th anniversary is the original traditional diamond anniversary with the 60th being added when Queen Victoria celebrated her Diamond Jubilee on her 60th anniversary of accession to the throne in 1897.

This list of wedding anniversary gifts by year has been continually updated by various commercial companies over recent years. Today celebrants can choose between the traditional list as well as a contemporary list of anniversary themes (which provides alternative modern-day suggestions such as electrical appliances!)

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