Divorce Mistakes

By: Len Stauffenger

Divorce Mistakes
Divorce is a time when the decision to make a change without the other. You're sensitive, you have hurt feelings and you just want the emotional pain to stop. Divorce will put a stop to it, but going through that experience is often chaotic. You're very vulnerable and sensitive. If I'm talking about you, now, be on the lookout for these five mistakes divorcees make. They can be avoided.

1. Bringing a 'Friend' Around The Kids Too Soon
It's tempting. There is a new 'someone' in your life who is supportive and you are grateful to have him or her in your life. Naturally, that means introducing him or her to your children, but don't jump into this new family dynamic too soon. Children of divorce are frequently confused by this and it will most likely infuriate your soon-to-be ex. Your ex will respond less angrily throughout the divorce if you exercise prudence and allow him/her a little time to get over the marriage.

2. Taking Divorce Questions to Friends For Legal Advice
The only time you should ask a friend for divorce help is if your friend is a lawyer. If your friend isn't an attorney, back away and let those who understand the legal proceedings exercise their expertise in this intricate field. It's like asking for medical advice from someone who isn't a medical professional. You'll get conflicting divorce advice from well-meaning friends, and it will drive you crazy because you won't know what to believe.

3. Hiring the Cheapest Lawyer
Trying to get a cheap divorce isn't always the best idea. You'll want a divorce lawyer that will spend time with you and answer your questions. If the attorney's fees frighten you, talk to him about it and ask for a flat fee - and ask him to outline the services he'd provide for this fee.)

4. Hiring the Meanest Lawyer
The meanest lawyer isn't going to get you the divorce support you want. You can enjoy the results you want from your divorce from an assertive divorce attorney. And anyway, an obnoxiousFind Article, surly divorce lawyer often makes the judge enraged if your case gets to trial. You would make a costly mistake if you look to hire an attorney for your divorce who is mean-spirited.

5. Ignoring the Truth
You've made the decision to go forward with the divorce. Now is the time to be honest with yourself and make some changes. You've got to face the facts: divorce as well as marriage involves learning your lessons for each experience. What you want to do is make sure that you don't find yourself falling into the same patterns that got you here and making the same mistakes you made before. 

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