How to save The Marriage

By: Cucan

Have you been having trouble keeping the attention of your significant other? Have you been through a series of breakups and makeups, finding yourself compared with other men?

Has she been cheating on you? If you're not quite ready to ditch your unfaithful wife or girlfriend, here are ten tips to keep her from straying.

If you're searching for more security in your relationship, the changes first have to start with you:

1) Take a look in the mirror.

If she keeps walking away from you, there's probably a reason. If you want to hold her interest, take a long, hard look at yourself.

Have you been physically or emotionally unavailable? If so, this is clearly why your partner keeps leaving for someone else, someone who'll give her the attention she hasn't been getting from you.

If you want to change your relationship for the better, have an honest discussion with her about what she needs, and listen carefully. If she can't point to any specific problems in the relationship, however, she may not be a woman worth keeping.

2) Forgive her.

If you've taken that first step and admitted that you're at least partially to blame for your partner's loss of interest, now you can begin to rebuild your relationship.

Recognize that affairs or flirtations with other men are symptoms of a damaged relationship - people rarely risk their relationships without good reason.

Keep the lines of communication open and express your compassion and understanding toward her - and, more importantly, be willing to forgive and forget.

If you're going to heal your relationship, you can't hold a grudge. If you don't forgive her and, instead, continue to punish her emotionally, she might as well continue to cheat on you with someone who'll show her kindness.

But if you're ready and willing to address your relationship problems as a whole, rather than her behavior alone, the two of you can repair your broken relationship together.

3) Set some rules.

While it's important to change your own hurtful behaviors, you also have to share your own boundaries as well.

This means more than just telling her, "don't cheat anymore." You'll need to agree to talk about problems as they arise before they lead to even bigger problems.

And you should be very honest about how difficult it will be to trust her for some time to come.

If she cares about the relationship, she should be willing to agree to avoid situations where she could feel tempted - dinner alone with a male coworker, or example, is probably not the best idea.

4) Don't get lazy.

If you've been in a relationship for a while and it's been mostly positive, it's easy to start taking it for granted.

Don't let this happen!

If you stop investing time and effort once things get back to normal, the relationship may grow stale again - and pretty soon you'll find yourself wondering whether or not she's eyeing other men. Keep things exciting and remind her often how much you love her.

It's the little things that matter in the long run and, if you can remember every day what it is about her that makes you so fulfilled, you'll find this step comes naturally.

5) Nurture every aspect of the relationship.

Perhaps you still have a terrific friendship with your wife or girlfriend, but your sex life has given up the ghost. Or maybe your sex life is still alive and kicking but you feel emotionally distant from her.

If you have children, you may find the dynamics of your relationship have changed drastically. There are any number of things that can eat away at a once-healthy relationship - if you neglect enough bricks in the wall, it will eventually all tumble down.

Remember, there are both sexual and emotional reasons for affairs. Just because you're able to keep things interesting in the bed, doesn't mean that your partner is completely satisfied.

6) Remember to be romantic.

Has your relationship gone stale? If so, all it may take is a romantic weekend getaway or an evening out on the town to rekindle the romance that once came so easily.

7) Make her feel good about herself.

Sometimes a woman will seek another man's company if she feels bored in the relationship. She may be looking for an ego boost, or for excitement that's lacking at home.

Compliment her smile, her body, her sense of humor. Tell her, unasked, that you find her beautiful. Part of being a good partner is making the one you love feel attractive and special - and if you don't make her feel that way, she may go looking for someone who will.

8) Be honest.

Good communication is essential for any long-term relationship. Not only should you express your feelings of love toward your partner on a regular basis, but any issues you have as well.

If both of you are open and honest, then you can solve small problems before they become big ones that drive her into another's arms. Don't be afraid of being vulnerable.

9) Give her space.

While you want to be as available as possible, it's also important that you respect her privacy. If she feels smothered, she'll be scared away. If she's completely commitment-phobic and fears intimacy, that's a whole other situation and may be unsolvable.

But if your relationship is simply too intense and she's feeling pressured, you may simply want to back off a little.

10) Spice up your sex life.

If she's bored, there could be any number of reasons - perhaps your intimacy has become a bit predictable. A fun way to get your relationship back on track is to add a little variety to your sex life. Any adult video store or shop has a number of toys, games, books, and other items designed to wake up a slumbering libido.

By following these simple steps, you might just be on your way to a better relationship. As Woody Allen's character said in the film Annie Hall, "a relationship is like a shark - it has to constantly move forward, or it dies."

If your companion can't stay put, you might have what Allen deemed a "dead shark." But not to worryComputer Technology Articles, there are many ways to bring it back to life.

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