Too Many Divorces

By: Skye Thomas

What is the Divorce Rate again....
So many girls accept the first proposal that comes along assuming it's the best they'll ever get. The fear that we'll be alone makes us afraid to say no to someone who isn't necessarily the right partner for us. Add to that the dizzyingly wonderful high that comes along with falling in love, it's almost more than folks can handle. Even Adults who have gone through repeated marriages make the same mistake.

Divorce Rate by Country
Take a look at the Divorce Stats in the top 5 largest Country;

  • USA Divorce Rates
    40 to 50 percent of married couples in the United States divorce. The divorce rate for subsequent marriages is even higher.
  • UK Divorce Rates
    42 per cent of marriages now end in divorce. There were 106,959 divorces in 2016, an increase of 5.8% compared with 2015. The divorce rate for was highest among men aged 45 to 49 and women in their thirties (ages 30 to 39).
    Stats by Office of National Statistics in UK
  • Canada Divorce Rates
    The total divorce rate is 37%. Newfoundland and Labrador had the lowest rate of divorce at 21.6 per cent, while Quebec had the highest at 48.4 per cent. Stats by Statistics Canada.
  • Australia Divorce Rates
    In Australia, there are 2 divorce cases per 1000 people. This amounts to 46,498 divorces in Australia for the whole of 2014. This works out to 132 divorces every single day. The median length of marriage until seperation in 8.4years. 47% of divorces involves children under 18years. Stats by Australia Bureau of Statistics.

Test Yourself
Are You Ready to Commit to Marriage?
We will never be ready for it but we must be ready to commit to marriage.

Ask yourself these questions

  • Are you really ready?
  • Are you done playing the field?
  • Do you still have wild oats to sow?
  • Is your career or higher education going to get in the way of your ability to really build a life with someone else?
  • What are your beliefs about marriage?
  • Are you a high maintenance or low maintenance personality?
  • Are you ready for kids?
  • Do you even want kids?
  • How exactly do you plan on raising them?
  • Are you going to be a smothering parent or one who pushes the child into independence?
  • Tough love or doting?
  • What kind of financial lifestyle do you want?
  • Can you achieve it before you have kids or should you wait and have kids later when you've set things up just so?
  • How much intimacy do you want, need, prefer?
  • How accommodating are you to other people's needs?
  • Are you a team player or a bit self indulged?

Ask Your Partner these questions before proposing
Know your partner before proposing or accepting their proposal.

  • Are they really ready?
  • Do you trust them not to cheat?
  • What are their career aspirations?
  • What are their spiritual beliefs and how important are they to them?
  • What religion does your partner want to raise your children in?
  • Are they high maintenance or low?
  • Do you have what it takes to please them?
  • Are they the type that will naturally please you without having to force yourselves to take care of each other?
  • Do they want kids? If so, when?
  • What kind of financial lifestyle do they want to raise a family in?
  • Are they the type to want to just dive in and trust that everything will turn out okay or do they have a plan that they're going to want you to agree to and follow with them?
  • What is their parenting style and beliefs?
  • How much intimacy does your partner like?
  • How well do they compromise with others?
  • Again, there are no right or wrong answers, but you need to know these things about the other person before agreeing to marry them.

There are no right or wrong answers. 
You just need to have your eyes wide open for the sake of you and your future spouse. You need to be able to tell them straight up what it is you're offering. What exactly does 'let's get married' look like to you?

Be Patient
As a society, if we would just wait for the right one to come along, we'd see a huge drop in the divorce rate. Choose wisely and hold it sacred when you do find that special someone. Know just how rare and special they are. And give thanks daily once you find them.

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