Now that you are engaged it is time for you and your fiancee to sit down and discuss what kind of wedding you two envision. Just because you love each other, it doesn't mean that you agree on what kind of wedding would be your dream wedding.
If you have always dreamed of being the princess walking down the aisle treated like royalty, a traditional wedding is for you. But, if your fiancee wants to get married scuba diving instead, you two have a lot to talk about. Even though you two may not agree, you have to keep discussing your options. Many grooms don't want to be bothered with wedding planning because they are not heard. If you want your fiancee to get involve, treat him like an equal and the help and feedback you receive may surprise you.
Whatever your decision may be you two have to feel good about it. Your wedding should be personalized to your desires. You two have to communicate clearly and openly about what is your dream wedding and why. You two have a common goal that is to get married, how you get there is your decision. Make a list of ideas that are important for you and see how you can incorporate them into your wedding day. Before you start working on the details, you should individually write down the most important ideas to make sure neither one of you is pressured into omitting anything important.
Throughout history, many of the decisions about the details of the wedding were up to the parents. Today, while parents are usually part of the process, they are not decision makers. If you want your parents to pay for your wedding, you are going to have to give them a lot more decision-making power than if you and your fiancee are paying for everything.
Once you get married you will become a team, so it makes sense to work as team planning your wedding. There are good and dysfunctional teams; you have the power to become an effective team. Regardless, the size or style of your wedding, you and your fiancee has to work together. The more effective you work together, the more fun you will have planning your big day.
