An online relationship should be viewed like any other relationship. However, online relationships are gaining popularity mostly because people have the advantage of knowing each other first before the actual date. Also, they are considered safer and more practical for people who don't have much time to invest in real world dating. But before going online and investing time in a virtual relationship you should learn some tricks.
1. To keep your relationship on the right track you need to invest some time in it. Make sure that you don't neglect your virtual partner and treat him or her with the respect they deserve. If you feel that the other partner doesn't respect you or they are neglecting you it's probably time to move on.
2. Online relationships are based on the communication between the two parts so make sure that works well. Also, don't try to push the other partner to meet you too soon, they might feel uncomfortable. Make sure that you two know each other well before moving on to the next step; it takes a lot of time to build trust in each other.
3. Respect the other's personal information and don't share it with other people. If your partner is sharing digital photos with themselves, email address or other personal information, respect their privacy and don't give that information to others.
4. A good way to improve your relationship is to have fun together. Besides having great talks and sharing interests, you can also watch videos together or comment about different articles you find on the internet.
The things above are just some ideas about what you can do with your partner to improve your online relationship. Make sure that you use your intuition and trust your gut feeling to avoid any risky situation with strangers.
Make sure that you treat your relationship as a normal relationship. If the person is just a virtual partner it doesn't mean they don't require the same respect as real world partners.
And, doing this online is a good way to start. Especially since it can widen the number of people you have the same interests with. You can now meet people world wide if you choose. This will also help you grow.
The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work (Crown, 1999) is a book that I often recommend for people who are wishing to improve their relationships, married or otherwise. The author, Dr. John Gottman, actually hooked couples up to electrodes and watched what happened to their blood pressures and heart rates while they talked to each other. He found that he could predict with 91% accuracy whether their relationship was slated for the long term or headed for break-up.
Dr. Gottman found that even happily married people have screaming matches; the difference is in the way they argue. What is death to a relationship is treating your partner with criticism, contempt, defensiveness, or refusal to communicate.
Dr. Gottman's seven principles are:
1. Enhance Your Love Maps
Find out what works with your partner and do more of it.
2. Nurture Your Fondness and Admiration
Focus on what you like about your partner rather than their faults.
3. Turn Toward Each Other
Instead of Away One of the most destructive things you can do when things are going through a rough patch is to isolate and go off by yourself, leaving your partner alone to imagine the worst. Dr. Gottman found that couples with good relationships stick with their partner and turn toward each other seeking solutions to their problems.
4. Let Your Partner Influence You
Dr. Gottman identified this as especially challenging for men: letting their partners influence them to share more vulnerability, to talk more about their feelings, and to not need to be in control all the time.
5. Solve Your Solvable Problems
Dr. Gottman says that 69% of the problems in any relationship will never be solved, so it is good to focus on the 31% that can be. Pick your battles.
6. Overcome Gridlock
Get whatever help you need to keep problems from backing up.
7. Create Shared Meaning
Examples of this would be to create new rituals around holidays and vacations.
Happily married people live an average of four years longer than those not so blessed, and have been shown in test after test to have healthier immune systems, less chance of getting sick, and higher scores on happiness measures. To learn more about what you can do to improve your relationship, I would recommend this book to anyone. It is easy to read and has practical advice you can put into practice immediately.
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