Are you making it harder for your child to choose between you or the other parent? Do you and the other parent get along well enough to co-exist between each other? The heartache and pain children face when neither of their parents can get along is shameful. It’s unfortunate sometimes we as parents make it much harder on our kids to deal with the reality that momma and daddy does not get along. We do this when we both show we have domestic issues which could lead to lifetime repercussions. If we’re not careful and begin to take the consequences of separation and divorce more seriously it could affect our children with their relationships when they’re grown.

Children can easily become victims of bad relationships because of what they may observe when they see that their parents cannot be on one accord for the mutual benefit of the child. I must admit it’s sad, but that’s the predicament I’m in right now as I write this article. I thank God though because my daughter is use to the differences between me and her mom to the degree that it now appears natural to her and she no longer lets it disturb her to great lengths. What I’ve learned over the last several years is not to bad mouth or say anything derogatory about her mom even if it’s true. I have to keep my true feeling concealed and show no animosity toward her mom to keep the peace within my home between myself and my daughter.

If you want to be closer to your child then begin to respond favorably to the other parent for the benefit of your child. I know this can be painful for some of you; but it could truly change your relationship with your child more than anything else. This is what you truly want anyway; to be able to have a bonding relationship with your child despite the differences you may have with the other parent. The more your child sees you bend over backward and forward for them; they will begin to see you quite differently than the stories that have been told about you. Action speaks louder than words and your child or children will be able to see the true you. Make it easier for your child to want to be in your presence more than the other parent. It takes practice, and a lot of patience to be able to accomplish such a task. But it can be done because I’m living proof, you can bond with your child and eventually get custody of him or her if that’s your desire. Spend quality time with your child at every moment you can and begin to repair the damaged relationship that could lead to a wonderful life for the benefit of yourself and your child.

Your child or children are an asset to you and not a liability. Look, Children are a heritage from the Lord, the fruit of your womb is a reward. Psalm 127:3. If you are struggling with your parental rights and responsibilities sign-up to receive tips on life in general and I can help you with your parenting concerns.
Copyright © 2007 Clark A. Thomas