Problem solved. Unfortunately, this could take years.

This solution does not work for everyone though, because some folks are stuck in a situation where they absolutely have to sell their house.

This can happen for many reasons, some good and some not so good: relocation, financial hardship, divorce, death, illness, or anything at all. The result is that you may have to move, but you can't sell your house and make enough on the sale to pay the closing costs.

So what do you do?

One option is to do nothing and not make your mortgage payment. That's a worst-case scenario because it impacts your credit rating more severely than anything else possibly can.

Another option is something called a "short sale." This is when you fess up to the lender, let them know about your hardship and ask them to accept less money than you owe.

Of course, the lender doesn't want to do that, but they also don't want to pay all the costs of foreclosing on a home, repairing any defects, placing it on the market, and getting the best price they can in what may be a market already overstressed with excess inventory.

Lenders absolutely hate to foreclose, so they may be willing to consider a short sale.

Not always so don't get your hopes up.

A short sale involves a lot of paperwork, time and effort and it is best if you have a real estate agent or someone knowledgeable to help guide you through the process and give moral support. A lot of stress is involved.

The first step is to contact the Loan Service Department of your lender. That number will be in the documentation you receive about making your payment. Use the phone and the mail. Keep copies.

The lender will ask you to submit a financial statement. They want to know that you really don't have the financial assets to repay the loan after you sell the home.

That's just the beginning, assuming they give a tentative agreement.

Your real estate agent still has to put the home on the market, find a buyer, and get a bona fide offer. Once that has been accomplished, you submit all contracts and paperwork to your lender for a decision. This takes a while because there are several decision makers involved.

Your lender isn't usually your lender. They just service the loan for your actual lender, called the investor. Your paperwork is submitted to the investor for a decision.

Assuming you have mortgage insurance on the loan, they are another decision maker in the process. Mortgage insurance covers lenders in the case of loan defaults. That way they can justify making high LTV (loan-to-value) loans.

If the investor and the insurer both agree, your short sale is approved, and you can sell you home.

A short sale is basically a "forgiveness of debt." That counts as income and you have to declare it to the IRS.