There are few things which are tougher than going through a breakup; except for trying to get back with your ex following a parting. You have to take each step carefully - one mistake could mean your chances of ever getting back with him or her are over for good.
The steps which we'll go through here may seem all wrong to you at first, however, many of the things which may feel right to you are actually exactly the wrong way to go if you want to have a chance of salvaging your relationship. When you feel like calling your ex, thats when you should avoid this by all means. When you want to spill your guts, this is when you need to keep your cool.
While these methods might seem all wrong, they have been proven to work and have saved many relationships.
Strategy #1
The first step is to accept the situation - you have been broken up with and you need to come to terms with it. You might have to struggle with yourself at first, but acceptance is important.
However, you have to accept the situation. Your ex will need space if they are to start missing you and think about taking you back. Right after the breakup, they are probably upset or angry with you; you need to back off and leave them alone for a while. If you badger them about getting back together, this will probably ruin your chances of a reunion.
Technique #2
Next, keep from making any kind of contact with your ex. Wait, just hear me out here. Your ex needs space to clear their head and get a new perspective - and so do you. This can let them start missing you and maybe even trying to contact you!
You both need some time and some perspective. This time apart will also get you ready to take the third step.
Technique #3
Next, you have to create an opportunity for the two of you to make a connection again. This is not as simple as it might sound - there are a lot of steps in between!