Are you trying to figure out the solution to these questions, "How do I get my lover back? He/she doesn't respond to me at all. I tried calling him/her several times per day. I tried text messaging. I have tried everything, but nothing seems to work." Well, you are definitely not alone. A lot of people have the same problems.

What is important for you to know is that there are many things that you can do that will increase your chances of success. However, there are also many things that you must not do. Do them and it can drastically reduce your chances of success.

Most probably, you may have already done some of the things that should never be done. If that is the case, don't worry too much and don't blame yourself. It is easy for us to make mistakes when we are at an emotional low point. The good news is that they are always things you can do to reverse the situation.

In this article, we will briefly discuss the first phase of saving your relationship, which is to improve your emotional state and allow time to heal your wounds.

So, what are the things that I can do to get my lover back?

1)Manage your own emotional state well

This is perhaps the most important thing you should do, especially if you have just broken up a few days ago. Most of the time, people do things that should not be done because they tried various means to get their lover back when they are not in a positive emotional state.

It is little wonder that they unintentionally do the wrong things. Try to improve your own emotional state before planning your next move.

2)Allow time to heal your wounds

Chances are regardless of who initiated the break up, both parties will not feel good. Therefore, it is usually a good idea to allow each other some space. Try not to meet up immediately after a break up. You can suggest this to your lover. This will usually elicit a positive response. Time away from each other during this period will allow you to think about what you really want.

There are many more things that can be done and also other things that must never be done. By knowing what they are, you will be able to increase your chances to win your ex back.