The first tip is to avoid contact.

The worse thing you can do after breaking up is to call the person constantly (especially if you have been drinking, no one appreciates the late night drunk call). Do not send emails or text messages or ride by their house or show up where you know they will be. Do not contact their family or friends.

This gives them time to calm down and re-evalaute things. It gives them time to miss you. If you are constantly contacting them, you are going to appear desperate, and you are going to irritate and alienate them.

Next is to accept the breakup. One of the first things you must do is "toughen up." That may sound a little cold, but it works like a charm. Be okay with the break up and go along with it. You can go as far as to say you were even thinking about suggesting the split yourself. This tactic will show your ex that you are not needy, and that will earn you respect. There will be a shift in psyche. People want what they can't have.

Then you must take time out. At least a month. Taking time out is the best way to let those feelings of panic and desperation cool down. When people are desperate they tend to do crazy things, and when you do crazy things you will convince your ex that they made the correct decision, and you can kiss your chances to get your ex back goodbye.

You must always remain positive. No one likes to hear a negative person whine and complain. You want your ex to believe they've made the mistake by letting you go. If you throw a pity party you will confirm their instinct to break off the relationship. Stay busy, and make yourself and your life better. Your value will be re-established in your ex's eye.

Then you must start working on regaining their trust. Your goal is to rebuild your friendship before attempting to get your ex back. It is a process, that requires effort. If you think you can jump right in where you left off you are going to be disappointed.

Next make a list of the positives and negatives about the relationship. Be honest and don't make up excuses. By doing this you will be able to determine whether or not you even want to get your ex back. This can only be done successfully if you have been split up for at least a month.