You are about to learn how to get your ex back by using a phone call strategy that almost compels your ex to respond. How cool would it be to be able to use a few simple words to almost command your ex to respond to the voice mail message you leave for them? Even cooler still is it works with text messaging and IM too! Well I am about to tell you this secret and why you need to combine it with an overall strategy to get the results you desire. Read on for this great tip to help you get your ex back.

We've all been involved in a broken relationship at one time or another. We've also all either been the giver or receiver of those absurd phone messages. You know the ones. Those messages of desperation and pleading that say something like "Please, please call me. I miss you sooooo much." They don't do much to get your ex back do they?

How about those emergency type messages like "Call me as soon as you get this. It's very important." Sometimes the receiver calls only to find out it wasn't an emergency and then they're left feeling manipulated and you are in a horrible position to ever try to win them back. Calls like these will never get your ex back. They will only make the chasm between you much wider and harder to breech.

Well here is a little secret. Turn those calls into something about them rather than you. What I mean is, there are 2 things that most people find very hard to resist and that's curiosity and self-interest. Let me give you an example. Suppose you left a voice mail message like this. "Sam this is Joan. I really appreciate what you did for me. I would love the chance to thank you in person. Call me ok?" This makes them think, "What did I do?" "When did I do it?" "What does she appreciate?" "Why does she want to thank me in person?" " What does she have in mind?" The list goes on and on and on. Now imagine how you would feel receiving a message like that. Would you be able to resist the temptation not to return the call? If you don't call back those questions will drive you bonkers and the same goes for them. This is a surefire mthod to get them to call you back.

Now before you run off to leave a voice mail I must warn you. Do NOT leave the first message until you have a strategy in place and here is why. What did they do that you appreciate? You must know that first. It can be something small but it still has to be legitimate or you will blow it. Secondly you must have a strategy in place to know what your next moves will be. Without a strategy your phone call will be simply a waste of time. This secret works but only as a part of a larger plan. Develop a strategy of how to get your ex back before you proceed or you may very well make the situation worse.