You will be busy planning your wedding after you decided to get married. In fact you should also start planning for your marriage (marriage, not wedding). The lives after marriage are more important than your wedding. There is no point to have a perfect wedding if you are not planning for a long term relationship after marriage.

In order to maintain a long term relationship with your spouse after your wedding, you should bear the following points in mind.

Faithfulness in marriage

It can be a disaster if a third person (of course the third person does not mean your children) is involved in your marriage. However, does it really mean unfaithful? A couples may be constantly involved in threesome but the relationship of the couple can still be very good. You should discuss with your spouse about your thought before you get married.

Mutual respects

We should respect our spouse. It will only lead to breaking up of relationship if you do not respect and doubt your spouse unreasonably. You should never check the SMS or the mobile dialing record of your spouse without telling him or her. If you have any doubt, you should discuss with your spouse. He or she should be more than happy to let you see the mobile record if you have mutual respects between yourselves.

Household income

The patterns of expenses will change a lot after you get married. You may need to spend more after marriage. This can be he rent of the house, transportation, or even the expenses for your children. You should also discuss together with your partner the expected living standard so that there will not be any misunderstanding.

Religious beliefs

You need to respect the religious beliefs of your spouse. It is not really a good idea to insist that the religious belief of your partner is the same as yours. If you really want that, you should find a spouse that does have the same religious belief as yours. You should not ask your spouse to give up what he or she believes in. Otherwise your relationship will certainly be broken.

Common hobbies

Do you know the hobbies of your spouse? You may love outdoor activities while he or she may rather choose to read books at home. In fact there is nothing wrong for you to have different hobbies from your partner. Some one even believes that two persons go together because they are different. The key is to share the joy and happiness together. Sharing the joy and hobbies can make your life even more fruitful.

Sexual relationship

Sex is very import in a healthy relationship. However, some couples may feel shy to discus issues about sex. I have met a gentleman who sells sex toys in Hong Kong. Once he told me that couples in Hong Kong do not communicate well concerning the issue of sex. In fact this is not healthy and you should try to discuss with your spouse and keep your sex relationship even in your seventies.