Seems that for those of us that are seriously looking for a mate, then we should dig deep and determine what it is that will make us happy long term. These are some suggestions to get you there.

Take a personality test. A quick online search will turn up dozens of tests including the Myers-Briggs personality test. Now most of these tests are geared toward career options, but any analysis of yourself will help you identify your own traits. This will no doubt offer an insight into what makes you tick.

Make a pros/cons list of all your ex-boyfriends or ex-girlfriends. This isn't an exercise in self-destruction. You shouldn't try to re-live all your past traumas, but it is important to learn from your experiences. Think back on the qualities of the person or the relationship that you liked and disliked the most. Use your history to seek out what you know will work.

Mimic your fantasy celebrity love affair. This one is just for fun. AOL Personals has categorized some online profiles by similarities to celebs like Matthew McConaughey, Patrick Dempsey, and Katie Holmes.

Values. Values. Values. A shared value system is the key in any long-lasting relationship. Your fundamental beliefs and priorities in life shouldn't be compromised by your partner. Identify the values that matter most to you, for example, a career, children, faith, and geography. Only accept a second date with someone who shares your values with you.

Shop around online. For the picky single, online dating sites are a gift. Sites like Match.com, EliteMate.com, and Singlesnet.com are a few sites worth browsing. There may be qualities about someone that you didn't think about before and realize you would enjoy. Who knows, maybe you'll decide you want to meet him or her for real and join the dating site.

All of this is part of the process in finding your type. Suggestions like these will guide you in the right direction, but keep an open mind. You might be surprised if you date people that aren't necessarily your exact type.

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