Confidence with women may not be your forte. Maybe it's stuttering. Maybe it's just you being shy around women. Or may the good Lord help you if you just stiffen up and talk like a robot when a woman gets within twenty yards of you and looks straight at you. You may think you're absolutely hopeless and useless when it comes to women.
That's absolutely not true.
You really don't need cool threads, a million-dollar everything, the face of a movie star or the charm of Casanova to be confident with women. All you need to do is work with what you've got inside you, and you'll be able to talk to women as easily as counting one, two, three:
They're human too
No, women aren't literally from Venus. Sure they're a bit different: they change their minds as often as a fly beats its wings, they have this weird obsession with fashion and they turn green every time they see someone more beautiful than them. But at the heart of it all, they're still human
Put aside your notions and preconceptions about what women are supposed to be, and try to observe them for what they really are: they laugh, they cry, they feel anger, they feel love. They'll get pissed off if you give them reason to, and they'll giggle with joyful abandon if you give them reason to. They come in all sorts of sizes, shapes and personalities. Relax, and remember that they're human too. Do that, and watch your confidence with women soar. But since they come in all sorts of different shapes and sizes, you've just got to accept one unchangeable fact…
Failure is a part of life
Even the best of players and the most skilled guys at pick-ups have had their fair share of bombed approaches. You can't get a perfect record when you deal with women. You may learn to deal with them better, but you're bound to experience at least one major bomb when playing the dating game. It's just a fact of life, but don't let this erode your confidence with women.
Some would find your wit and charm funny, while others would see you like a bag of hot air. Some find you quiet and mysterious, while others would see you as cold and aloof. These are just two examples of approaches that would work with some girls while bombing with others. The entire point is some women may like you for the way you are, some won't. However, there is one particularly important thing you must never forget when dealing with the fairer sex...
Love yourself
It's relatively simple, really: how can you expect another to build up confidence with women if you find yourself repulsive? This is the kind of love that allows you to be comfortable with who you are. Know your strengths, weaknesses and perks enough that you'll be able to understand who you are. Change what you don't want and embrace what you like about yourself. The girls dig guys who are comfortable just being themselves.
Just make sure you don't literally fall in love with yourself. Narcissism is a major turn-off for women. Bringing up a mirror in public and saying “Whoa, you're HOT today!” while believing every word of it will really gross out anyone who sees it. Believe it.
So there you have it: three simple ways to build up confidence with women. Know that they're human, accept and learn from failure, and most importantly, learn to love yourself. Master these three basics, and you'll be well on your way to being a pro at the dating game!
