Exactly what issues need to be addressed? Do you have one specific issue in mind? As a rule many of us have a real and important need to become much less confused about things we choose to have in our lives. This applies to all things, from everyday practical matters to feelings that are uncomfortable. The mystery is to achieve a clear mind and then to uncover the answers to problems. The 7 Words System offers a straightforward instinctive system that allows us to get a much better feeling of what exactly we are trying to find. This kicks off with No. To begin with, we will need mark out exactly what we don't want, what is not useful, before we can know what we do want.
Conflict Resolution Strategies: HELLO is about openness and exchange.
What can you learn from others? Are you ready to make changes in your situation and way of doing things?
Conflict Resolution Strategies: THANK YOU is about appreciating and valuing. The following step connects to the word Hello. We will certainly need to open up to new ideas and people if we want to develop our breadth of keys to questions arising. We surely know that? To get something fresh we will need to stretch our prospect of vision and look where we have not formerly looked previously. Fresh dreams, new friends, new places and new things are clearly characteristic of giving consideration to something we have not up to that time experienced. We will want to substitute old for new, that can tender something in equitable return for what are trying to acquire for ourselves.
Always there is good to be found in the qualities of a person. How well are you expressing your appreciation? Between all of our choices, some are more pleasing than others and of course we want them to have a higher value, because we appreciate them more. This is explained by the primary word Thanks. Over and over again, we forget the importance of what we have, slide unconsciously into ungratefulness and are likely to take things for granted. It's more than merely civility to display our appreciation for things we value; it has an important part to play in helping us to realize our aims. In some unconscious way, we are pulled to what we convey gratitude for, and yet it's equally valid to say that we will be able to magnetize them to us too. We build up our magnetism when we say Thanks and therefore, when we do so, we naturally bring things towards us.
Conflict Resolution Strategies: GOODBYE is about realization, decision, completion, and moving on.
Whichever way you go, from now on life has changed and will be forever different. The word Goodbye is the fourth of the 7 primary words and relates to a procedure having 4 clearly defined steps. They are: realization, decision, completion and moving on. What we are saying goodbye to a particular stage of development, so is to be distinguished plainly as out-and-out dismissal of a viable course of action that previously we had been going towards and in future will not engage in. It is a turning point in our pick of would-be outcomes.
Goodbye is different from No because it implies that there has been a degree of involvement already, which now needs to end compared to No's refusal to become involved in the first place. True decisions cut the past away entirely and that penetration establishes an opening that otherwise does not happen.
Conflict Resolution Strategies: PLEASE is about intention and cooperation. The future becomes known according to the habits of the past unless we take control of it and shape it to our will. To do this requires us to have a vision of how we want it to be; this vision has to be very clear, clear-cut and optimistic—and converted into intention. They differ don't they - vision and intention? The first is rather unreal and the second is much more concentrated and willful. For a dream to become real there must be help. Nothing can be completed without winning the assistance of other people - this takes aptitude, probably persuasion, even encouragement. It is not always essential to present something such as money or money's worth.
How do you cooperate to find harmony? You do have a vision of a successful resolution? The future becomes known according to the habits of the past unless we take control of it and shape it to our will. To do this requires us to have a vision of how we want it to be; this vision has to be very clear, clear-cut and optimistic—and converted into intention. They differ don't they - vision and intention? The first is rather unreal and the second is much more concentrated and willful. For a dream to become real there must be help. Nothing can be completed without winning the assistance of other people - this takes aptitude, probably persuasion, even encouragement. It is not always essential to present something such as money or money's worth.
Conflict Resolution Strategies: SORRY is about responsibility, remorse, repair and release. Sorry, the 6th primary word, is best seen as making good damage done if we've been inconsiderate or oblivious to the circumstances of another. The best strategy is to make sure we forestall the need to say it by being thoughtful beforehand. Why on earth should we? Well it's because anyone we upset could easily be inclined to act against us and lower our probability of success, so it is obviously more reasonable to think of others as well as ourselves. This question is all to do with being responsible, having a degree of concern for anyone we've upset and making atonement when we've done wrong. Then and only then will it ever be possible to prevent the likelihood or heal resentment and let go of the everlasting nastiness that otherwise would increase and become further aggravated.
Do you need to take responsibility and feel genuine remorse for your part in any conflicts and tensions that exist?
Conflict Resolution Strategies: YES is about accepting and surrender. The final point of our 7 Words procedure is to do with acceptance; there are circumstances when we simply have to admit what we cannot change. The word is Yes. It would be delightful wouldn't it if we were able to make the world exactly the way we envision it - but in fact we can't. We always need to tolerate what comes, and to take what is not exactly what we asked for.
The greatest habit is to have an expectation that everything sooner or later turns around to our advantage, that the modifications to our plans are all improvements when perceived in the perspective of the longer term. Indeed it's not easy to see it when we are still close and attached to our desires of course not! Yet wait a bit and you may well see that the unlooked-for occurrences, the surprises and setbacks are actually the best bits veiled as misfortune.
Not every path is workable, that's the whole point of our being creative individuals...are you truly trying to find a way that works for all concerned?