Below are some basic tips and techniques to give you some ideas about how you can help heal your relationship.

Think about why you broke up in the first place and try coming up with ways to improve these issues. If your behaviour was a deciding factor in the breakup, try changing your behavioral patterns.

Do not unnecessarily call your ex over and over again . Don't plead, beg or chase after your ex. This type of behaviour I'm sure will be questionable to your ex and will only push them further away.

If your lifestyles are different, ask yourself if you're willing to compromise to make it work. If so, let your ex partner know.

If you're having a conversation with your ex partner, try not to get emotional. Don't start an argument. No one want's to deal with a person that's emotionally needy. If you're out of control, you will have a hard time getting your ex back. Stay cool and avoid this one mistake that could cost you the relationship you're working so hard to fix. No matter what, calmly let them know that you are willing to work out your problems.

Never make the mistake of trying to get back with an ex just because you're use to having them around or your self esteem is low. If you are dealing with emotional issues, maybe for now, getting your ex back is not the right thing to do. You should seriously consider doing something that will make you happy. It's difficult to make someone else happy if you're an emotional wreck.

Being admired and loved by someone is what we all want. Breaking up with a partner can give you the blues. But respecting and treating another with kindness always wins the prize. One things for sure, you cannot force someone to come back to you. Just let everything happen naturally.

If you feel more in control and emotionally ready to win your lover back, then by all means work on a plan for getting your ex back. More importantly, the best thing you can do is first find happiness within yourself.