What is the key to breaking down the barriers without causing even more conflict? Keep in mind that it took time to damage the relationship and it is going to take time to fix it.

Be willing to compromise and take an honest look at the problems and issues that are there. What can YOU do to meet your ex girlfriend halfway? What are you actually willing to do? Don't make promises you can't or won't keep, as this only

makes things worse in the long run.

That said, here are some things you can work on to help you in getting your ex girlfriend back:

Be A Major Part of the Solution: Take a good hard look at what is causing the conflict in the relationship. What part of this is due to things you are consciously or unconciously doing? What can be done to fix it? What would you ask of her? Are your expectations realistic? Take all aspects of the situation(s) into consideration and write down your ideas on how to fix it.

Be The Right Man For The Job: Being the right man for your woman doesn't involve overhauling yourself into something you were never meant to be. What kind of man does she need? Think about your love and her needs. Can you honestly be that man without becoming a person you can't be happy with? If it's not possible, it would be better to just become her friend. As a general guideline, women love to be with men who are honest, genuine, and committed.

Be Romantic: Most women love romance! It's easy to be romantic and caring during the initial phase of a relationship, but somehow after a while, it just doesn't seem so important. Guys, let me tell you, she still wants the little romantic gestures! Don't let that slip by you! It doesn't have to be major, it just needs to from the heart. What kind of things does she find romantic and endearing? If you don't have a clue, you better get busy and find out if you want to keep the passion in the relationship.

Be The Kind of Man Who Puts Her Needs First: Before you start yelling guys, think about this…if you put her needs first, she will be much more likely to put YOUR needs ahead of her own. I don't know why it works that way, it just does. I am more likely to be overly considerate of my man if I know he is doing the same thing for me. If he is being a selfish pig, well, let's just say my behavior matches it!

These are the key elements to getting your ex girlfriend back. Relationships are tough sometimes and a lot of hard work, but being in the right relationship with someone you really care about is worth the effort.