How many times have you spoke with a person that likes whining, complaining and having criticism as an interesting form of conversation? Most of these people make you feel down, uncomfortable and in a better accurate reality- they just drain your energy. I am here to tell you that this has an immediate solution. It does not have to be this way if you do not want to. You can take a few short proactive decisions right now, apply them as I will explain and move forward with better fascinating things, to either avoid this kind of people or make them wake-up by showing them how ridiculous and silly they look in the most professional and comfortable way- even if you are shy or do not have the guts to get it done. It happens all around us.
Do the circumstances that we are currently passing by-bad economy most of the time, people doing things they do not want to do and mainly because it is easier to be depressive than being energized and full of happiness- their will still be more psychology clinics every single year and more people down and with low energy to live life at the fullest. So, what to do about it?
You need to understand that even if you are not a whiner a complainer or guy of critics like most people do to create drama and feel good about having a low-class conversation, you should know that you are getting perceived like a low-class uneducated person. You need to understand that when you focus yourself on whining, complaining and being supporting criticism- you are being perceived as a negative person. You are perceived negative with people that are educated enough and healthy enough to understand and know what kind of person you or the guy being negative really is. Reality is that when you perceive a person being negative and talking in a cheap way about something- you may get the immediate though that he may talk negatively about you also. It gets you to feel uncomfortable when being with that person alone at some point as you are having your guard up most of the time keeping in-check your mind, to correct him or her immediately in case he or she says something negative about you.
When you speak with those kinds of people you need to either delete them completely or you can filter those comments and try for once to proactively change the conversation to a useful conversation that can energize both of you at the same time. How do you do this? You can think of how you can give more to them before ending the conversation. Clear example will be: Talk about their life, talk about what is their favorite music, favorite activities that they currently enjoy and all the other usual stuff that makes you feel good when in a new conversation, but putting yourself in their shoes- whether it is with a woman or a men.
Important thing here is to never express oneself in a manner that is negative or leaves to a negative talk. It is vital that you get it. Being perceived positive and joyful brings a positivistic energy into present and most likely the person will perceived you and have you in his or her mind as a good charismatic guy- even if you are a little shy or do not talk much. Best of all, if you are positive with people- they will listen more of you and they will respect your point of views more than the regular average guy who comes up to talk to them on a daily basis.