Well, the truth is, you are not alone. Even if your situation seems hopeless now, there are people who have the same problems as you. Just to list some examples, there people getting back after an affair, or even verbally and abusive relationship.
Obviously, I am not suggesting that you go back to an abusive relationship. It is just to illustrate that there is still a chance of reconciliation no matter how bad the situation is.
Depending on your situation, if you really feel that this relationship is worth saving, then you should be aware of certain things that you must never do. Do them and it may spoil your chances of ever getting back into the relationship.
Here is a list of things that you should never do:
(Note: I will be using "he" and "him" for simplicity. The tips below apply to members of both genders.)
1)Calling Him Several Times Per Day
Most people hate someone who pesters them. By calling him several times per day, you are actually showing that you are desperate. This will usually drive him/her further away.
Try to give each other a period of time to cool off. Probably two weeks to a month. Who knows, perhaps the breakup is just an impulse. He may start to miss you during this period, depending on the situation.
2)Contacting His Friends or Family
Perhaps, you want to find out the real reason why he decided to break up with you. So you contacted his friends and family. No matter what, try not to do it.
First, he may not have told his friends and family yet or have no intention of doing so. Imagine how he will react when he realized what you have done.
Second, his friends and family is likely to tell him about it. Even if you can't accept the reason he gives you, just accept it as it is for the time being.
3)Meeting Him "Accidentally"
You know he will always go to ABC building on Thursday. So you purposely meet him "accidentally" there. Don't do that, he will know it instantly. This will only make him feel like you are stalking him.
By not doing those 3 things above, you will increase your chances of salvaging your relationship. After the cooling off period, you can start to put together a plan of action.
