How to succeed by recognizing the Good Life within Yourself

By: Abe Cherian

If fate intended you to be rich, then all you have to do isjust wait for the business of the century, money, spouse,health and wealth to fall into your lap. Most peopleunderstand fate as something static as if there were amessage written in the stars that said, "This is the wayit's going to be and it's not up to me." No wonder apassive life develops from this attitude, lives wherepeople wait for their fate to find them and just happen.

Years go by before they realize that in all this time theyhave not experienced anything and have virtually sleptthrough most of their days in a monotonous routine of work,lunch, dinner, occasional entertainment, television andrest. Each day is the same, boring routine until the daysbecome months and finally they stretch into years. Not tomention, they have probably been struggling for money andpossibly survival, experiencing health and relationshipproblems and such.

It is not surprising that in the end, all this leads to thefinal confirmation that "I am not intended to live the goodlife." Joey McCormick, a philosophy professor at the NCSate University, and author of many philosophical,religious and medical books, sometimes compares life with ajail cell, where institutionalized prisoners no longerremember their previous life of freedom.

Instead, their only goal becomes meager attempts to improvetheir living conditions (if they can) within the prisonwalls. They may paint walls with the vivid colors ofnature, hang posters or magazine pictures to cover the uglywalls that surround them. All the while, they're dreamingabout a better life and envying other prisoners for meagerprivileges above their own. Even worse maybe their cellsare wide open and nobody is forcing them to stay in theprison! They are free to go and experience a new, excitinglife.

They refuse to believe that somewhere a better life awaitsthem. No, they would rather put another poster on the wall,and dream on about a better life than take the chance ofmoving towards it only to wind up disappointed. For aprisoner to survive inside and behind bars, within theprison system, he or she must engage in a wide range ofmind-games. The most important one is to forget your lifeoutside the walls.

Unfortunately, this is also the most dangerous game of all,because its successful execution means you must becomesatisfied with the limited life you now have. If a newprisoner comes in with grand tales of life outside, therules of the game force the prisoner to reject them, notbecause they don't believe them, but because they don'twant to believe them. Believing the stories makes livingthe restricted and limited life inside unbearable.Believing would change their attitude about the limitedlife they are living and they simply "can't afford" forthat to happen. Believing the messenger might elicittalking, thinking and dreaming of escape - but the roadfrom here to freedom is long.

Many people live in a mental prison as strong and confiningas those who are behind bars. They have all the freedom inthe world, but they exercise none of it because they areafraid to believe, like the prisoner, that a better lifecan be theirs. Why? Because it takes courage to change your life, to break the old patterns, change old habits andrebuild your mental infrastructure.

It is easier to stay where you are, blame others and tellyourself: "No, this is too hard. Who am I to think that Ican make it happen? What if I fail? Right now, I havesomething; maybe it isn't what I wanted or even what I like,but it's something.

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