Hopefully, it has not been a long relationship. The longer the amount of time that you have been involved with someone, the harder it seems to be to end things. If you have only been seeing someone for a short time, it might still be difficult, but there is truth in that old saying that sooner is better than later.

The reason that sooner is better than later is not hard to understand. You will defiantly not be doing someone a favor by continuing to see them when you know that the relationship is not going any where for you.

If you know that the other party might be developing feelings for you that you are sure you will not be able to return, then breaking it off now might hurt them, but not as much as it will if you let them continue to grow more attached to you.

It is also a sad fact about the human character that if you do not have someone else lined up to take the place of the potentially injured party, you can be tempted to stay in the relationship just because there is no one else in your sights at the moment. Believe it, this is defiantly a mistake.

A person can be much more receptive to the fact that the relationship is ending because it is just not right for you a lot easier than if they think they have been being used and are now being dumped because someone better has came along. Let us face the fact that it is a crappy thing to do to someone and we should be better to them than to allow them to just fill a gap in our life until we meet someone else.

For Pete's sake, Jane's sake, or whoever's sake be as tactful and as gentle as you can be. Do not break up with them over the phone, write them a note, or worse, tell them nothing at all.

They will come away from the ended relationship with a lot more of their dignity in tact if you meet them and tell them what you truly feel. Letting them know that it is not because there is someone else and they are not a flawed person, but that it is just not the right relationship for you. You must admit, it is the least that you would want someone to do for you and your feelings.