Let's pretend you wanted form a habit. And not just some wimpy habit, but a major, mind controlling, and life changing habit behavior. Where do you start to make it a really strong habit that will feel impossible to break? There are three basic ways we learn habits; emotions, authority figures, and repetition.



Let's use an example.

Now, let's pick a person for our example. How about you when you were 10-14 years old. And for this example, let's use the habit of smoking.

So when you were around that age I think we can safely assume you were learning about life and how you fit into it. If you were like most kids, you weren't as confident about yourself as you would be later in life.

You may have felt self-conscious, dependant on others, powerless, not good enough, or just not as capable as you would have liked to feel. Let's call this feeling "bad". Now, this doesn't mean you felt miserable, but, did you feel as "good" as you wanted to feel? Did you feel as "good" as you believed other people felt?

Maybe, maybe not. If you sometimes felt "bad" you probably wanted to feel better, you wanted to feel "good". What your mind would see as an answer to this problem would depend upon your experiences and life lessons up to that point. Right?

How does a person learn things like that? Emotions, authority figures and repetition. You probably saw authority figures smoking - parents, family, friends, role models, and of course, advertisements. Smoking is perceived as tough, strong, independent, self-assured, and unique. All the "good" feelings you were feeling a lack of.

Your mind would develop a craving for the very thing it believes is in your best interest. The thing that will make you feel better. A craving that is a "feeling", separate from a "knowing".

Then you tried your first cigarette, and chances are that you weren't so good at smoking. That would come with practice.

Time passes and you continue to reinforce the emotional associations with your triggers. If you feel tired, stressed or angry, you want to smoke to get that refreshing "ahhhh" feeling.

A lot of people working to quit smoking have thought of these things. A lot have not. But, all of the people that have tried to quit smoking have used a lot of time thinking and analyzing their habit. Trying to argue themselves into quitting. But, you didn't learn this habit by thinking and analyzing. Why would trying to quit smoking that way work?

It is a lot easier to quit smoking with the same methods you started smoking with. A "hypnotized" state of mind combined with emotions, authority figures and repetition. Often called modern hypnosis.