This is not a ploy to get you to read it. It is a genuine warning as this is not written for everyone. If you are on a positive roll, parts of it could disrupt the flow and bring you down, which is not my intention.

My reason for writing this is to help you if a recurring obstacle prevents you creating your life the way you want it. To identify that obstacle and take steps to remove it, it is important that you first encounter the personal demons behind it.

What do you hate most about your life?

Think about this for a moment. Draw up a list of usual suspects and select two or three of the ones that really bug you then try putting these in order with the most hated of all on top, the second most hated underneath this and so on.

Why am I asking you to do this?

Doesn't this fly in the face of everything you are advised not to do when visualizing the kind of reality you want to attract?

You know the code. The moment a negative thought enters your head, replace it immediately with a positive counterpart and get that positive thought into sharp focus so that it triggers the positive emotions you want to generate to attract the reality you want.

Now I am asking you to abandon this code and to follow these negative thoughts to wherever they lead. Why do you hate the thing you hate most, that seething demon that sits glowering at the top of your list?

What are the fears, the frustrations, the resentments, the anxieties that you associate with these things? What is it about them that makes you crumble inside, causing your energy to fall away as your self confidence, self esteem and self worth collapse in a shapeless heap on the floor?

What is it that is so powerful; it can do this to you?

Really think about this last question.

Now ask yourself who gives it this power and who gives it permission to take your power away. To diminish your self worth, self confidence and self esteem.

If you're always screwing up with money issues and you use The Law of Attraction to visualize yourself being wealthy, who gives the next final demand to fall through your letter box the power to throw you off track convincing you that you're just a deadbeat loser after all?

If you never quite manage to get the kind of relationship you want and you use The Law of Attraction to visualize yourself in that ideal relationship, who gives the next person to turn you down the power to destroy your ego and leave the new self image you are trying to build in tatters?

If you are constantly unhappy with your body weight and use The Law of Attraction to visualize yourself the way you want to look, who gives the next bag of donuts you reach for the power to tell you this is never going to happen because you're too weak to follow through?

Lots of people have problems with money, difficulties with relationships and issues about the way they look. But guess what? Few of us have all three and these are just some of the most common things people hate most about their lives.

So, what am I saying here?

That there is no outside force, person or power out there judging you and making you feel low and wretched for being useless with money, hopeless at relationships, ineffective at keeping your body in shape or any other of the countless things we humans hate most about our lives. Because if there was we would all feel judged about all of them to some extent all the time - and we don't. We only feel judged on the one's that affect us most.

The only person with the power to bring you to your knees over any of these personal hates is you.

If you want to turn the tide and really get on top of whatever it is that bugs you most, the first step is to stop taking your own power away by putting yourself down the moment something doesn't go quite according to plan.

Accept that you screwed up. Forgive yourself. Then move forward. And as you move forward be grateful for that thing you hated for giving you the strength and self belief to move beyond it.

That's how you turn the tide. Then the positive thoughts and emotions you need to create your life the way you want it have a realistic chance of taking a permanent place in your heart and mind.

Copyright (c) 2008 Michael Messina