Breakups can be nasty and bad for the ego, especially if you've been dumped by a gorgeous hunk. Your pride will not allow you to take the drastic steps to snatch him away from another woman's arms. If there's someone who has shown you some passing interest, follow this up without going overboard. You'll need the subtle arts of seduction for this highly explosive and secret mission.



Woman, The Huntress

Waiting for a man to propose or show even the slightest interest in you can be infuriating, especially if you do want him to notice you. The person could be someone in the workplace, a friend, or even someone you frequently see at the bar where you spend those nights-out with pals. He could be your classmate, or even your older brother's best friend. Whoever he is, the challenge is just as hard to hurdle when you don't want him running away from you.

Just be yourself and he'll like you for what you are. He has been with a lot of women and copying the style of movie stars may not appeal to him. If he has known you for long, do not transform yourself overnight into a siren to captivate him. You might be sending the wrong signals.

Hunt your prey with an open mind, patience, and, of course, with a few unique gifts for men, Make sure, however, that there's an occasion for it. You don't want to spill the beans too early. If he still can't get the hint, you'll have to be more creative without coming across as a vamp.

Let Him Sit Up and Notice You

If the guy's your brother's best friend, the task is easy. Just be yourself as he has known you for years. Perhaps you'll have to start talking to him and making those eye contacts as if you're just plainly interested in what he has to say. While you're at it, smile. Never mind if your heart is hammering wildly. Stay cool.

If the man you want is a co-worker, ask him to help you with computer glitches, or get his advice and opinion on some gizmos. He'll gladly give his two cents? worth of counsel. Be friendly without being too sickeningly sweet. Try to maneuver a moment alone with him over a cup of coffee.

If the guy invites you out on a friendly date, accept with grace and don't don those outrageous outfits and put on too much makeup just to impress him. Wear something in your closet that's comfortable, as well as attractive. Show some skin, but not too much. When he compliments you, tell him that he makes you feel beautiful. It's a subtle start. Don't return the compliment just because he gave you one. But if he looks really good, say so.

After the date, don't call him. Let him call you. Thank him for the enjoyable evening and don't inveigle another invitation. If you have piqued his interest, he'll be calling and sending you emails and planning dates in advance. Now don't play too long at being hard-to-get. He might just call it quits.

If he is someone you want back, you'll have to change gears. After the break-up, don't be moaning your loss to friends. Dress up and join the fun. Don't keep on moping and crying your eyes out. Be his friend and let him know you're just around if he needs you, but don't be too visible and crop up at all parties and gatherings when you know he's bound to show up. He'll be annoyed instead of glad to see you.

These are the subtle strategies of seduction that won't burn you. But if the guy doesn't respond, then don't waste your time on him. He's not your Mr. Right.